Blogging Boomers have some unique topics this week, you Go Girl!
March 8, 2010 by JoJami Tyler and Deborah Boland - The Glam Gals
We have Spring fever and if you do too then head on over this weeks Blogging Boomers Carnival where you can read some great tips on a variety of topics.
This week our host is the Midlife Crisis Queen with topics as varied as a new product for women, that allows you to go the bathroom standing up like a man! It is called, Go Girl and you will just have to see it to believe it!
Don’t miss hearing about this new invention and other interesting thoughts and ideas from some of the webs top Boomer Bloggers!
Older women dating younger men
I am a 43 year old woman who has in the past dated men my old age but in the last few years began dating men a decade or more younger than myself. I hate the fact that society has prejudged women my age and put us into the role of mother and grandmothers but we are not to have sexual needs or desire. The men my own age I dated were content to stay home, watch tv and exert as little energy as possible. I am the mother of 3 grown daughters and 5 granddaughters and for the first time in my life have energy left to do the things I want to do which include hiking, primitive camping, and other outdoor activities. Men younger than myself have the energy to keep up.
I am a recent college graduate. I began school when my youngest entered high school, I was tired of not being able to keep up with her school work and help with homework. Men my own age cannot wrap their minds around an educated woman, or someone who has an opinion and is sure enough in themselves to share this opinion. Younger men are more open minded about women and the roles they play. I am currently involved with a man in his twenties. He accepts me for exactly who I am and experiences life with me, rather than waiting at home for me to come home and tell him how my day went.
He is also more willing to be a true partner. He helps with household chores, and is even willing to change dirty diapers on my grandchildren. We have discussed the issue of children. I have mine and am not interested in having any more. I am at a phase in my life when I am more interested in playing Mema than being Mom.
Men can reproduce until the day they die and women are limited to their reproductive years. Why as a society do we feel that younger women and older men are acceptable but when the tables are turned people are very judgmental.
Many women my age who date younger men are offended by the cougar title. I personally don’t care what people call me, I am happy with the life decisions I have made.
Women have been with younger men throughout history. We are only making such a fuss about it now because it is more in the media than before. A woman in her forties has enough issues to deal with. Changes in our bodies due to menopause and changes in my minds due to changes in our lifestyles. Many of us have children who are leaving the nest, husbands who are finding younger women more desirable than the women they have shared their lives with.
I see no problem with an older woman and a younger man. Younger men have more energy, are far more open minded and are more comfortable in their own skins, verses older men who are questioning their own sexual attractiveness. For those of us who do not want to start second families, or perhaps are simply looking for someone to share our time with I wish society would simply get over it.
I would like to see your website write something addressing this growing trend. I know there are cougar sites out there but I get more slack from women my own age than I do from younger women, or even men. They don’t understand why I date younger men. They feel I am acting in an unnatural way because I chose to be with someone who is mentally the same age as myself over someone who is my age physically.
I just subscribed to your website and am looking forward to hearing what advice you have for women 40+.
Hi Jennifer,
Sounds like you are an independent woman and thinker and probably a HOT one at that!
Good for you for following your bliss. Welcome to our site and we hope you will enjoy our tips for looking hip and chic after 40! If you ever have a specific question feel free to email us or comment again on any of our posts!
Cheers,
JoJami and Deborah