Blogging Boomers
June 14, 2010 by JoJami Tyler and Deborah Boland - The Glam Gals
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Do we stress less as we age?
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This week our host is Nancy Mehegan, from VaBoomer where you can find more on topics like, the rise of late stage divorces, if we stress less as we age, and being single and over 40.
Hope you will check them out and share your comments!
Well I certainly don’t stress as much as when I was young and up and coming but I havn’t worn tye dye in a while so maybe I could get even more relaxed if I did!
I love being in my 40’s. I am more confident, aware of my community, and comfortable in my own skin. I say and do what makes me happy and find myself being more and more true to myself with each passing day. Many of us as we age begin to regret decisions we may have made in our past. We regret spending so little time with children who are now grown, or leaving from college to marry the man of our dreams (which later turned out to be a dud). We regret not taking advantage of fleeting youth. I can honestly say this is the best time in my life. I got married last April to a wonderful man who lovingly puts up with my hot flashes, and hormonal surges. He understands I am going through a time of change in my life. My youngest daughter is preparing to leave for college in the upcoming year. My two older daughters are grown and have families of their own. For the first time since my oldest child was born I have time to follow my own dreams and aspirations. I have returned to college to finish my education, I have followed my bliss and write about and rescue unwanted dogs. I can honestly say that these are the best years to date.
No longer do I have to struggle to pay my bills or worry about being late for picking up kids or scheduling conflicts between my work schedules and my children’s’ extracurricular activities. I have time for myself, I take the time to relax in my oversized tub or give myself a facial and manicure. My life is now filled with what I want to do not simply what I have to do. I may be becoming self serving at this age but I believe I deserve better. I deserve to be treated with respect, I deserve to able to enjoy a meal without a constant interruption of phone calls and kids crisis and I deserve to be truly happy.
I spend quality time with my spouse, I sleep in on mornings that I don’t have pressing deadlines, and I enjoy every moment of my day. I do not spend my days regretting the things that I cannot change and often find myself laughing at the younger generation and their drama. I often tell my daughters if it doesn’t affect your money, your loved ones, or your home don’t stress over it. I know this advice falls on deaf ears but as a Mother it is my job to impart wisdom where ever it might do some good.
I am enjoying being my age. I am getting ready to celebrate my birthday in a few weeks. And this year I will truly be celebrating it. In years past I have been depressed about my birthday tried hard to forget it on my monthly calendar and would give anyone who mentioned it a dirty look. But recently I am proud to tell people my age and smile when they refuse to believe the number of years I have been on this planet.
For some reason people believe that you are supposed to climb in a hole and only occasionally peak out after the age of 40, but the times they are a changing. Being older is no longer such a bad thing. People are living longer, becoming healthier in their older years and learning what true living is all about. I do have to deal with peri menopause health issues at this time in my life, but I would rather deal with entering menopause than deal with a continued lifetime of periods, cramps and hormonal fluctuations. I am writing this for women everywhere that feel that growing older means losing a part of yourself. Growing older simply means getting better. You can explore you have become and what you are capable of growing into. Do what you love, follow your bliss; explore your world with new eyes. We may no longer be in our blooming youth but we still have a lot to offer.
Hi Jennifer,
We hear you and we thank you for sharing! Well said!!