Missing Part of Your Eyebrow? Here’s How to Fill It In

Tatoo EyebrowsHi Deborah,

I’ve been reading your post on eyebrows and wonder if you can give me any advice on what can be done for sparse eyebrows?

Several years ago I had a large mole removed from one eyebrow …the hair never grew back and I have ever since tried to cover in the space without much success. Now I have a lot of white in my eyebrows which are very wiry.

I put vaseline on my brows at night hoping that this will smooth and tame them but it hasn’t helped. What can I do to cover the space where the mole had been removed and also tame the wiry brows? Thank you  Valerie

Hi Valerie,

That is a frustrating problem. As you know, the eyebrows frame the eyes and give your face a lot of definition and so you want to be sure as you age your eyebrows don’t fade into the background. For the answer to your question I turned to Fabulous After 40 celebrity make-up artist Sana Young. Here’s what she said: Continue Reading

Why Did Michelle Obama’s Botox Comment Hit Such A Nerve?

Michelle-ObamaLast week Michelle Obama made news by not ruling out having plastic surgery or using Botox one day. “Women should have the freedom to do whatever they need to do to feel good about themselves,” the First Lady told People magazine in an interview on the cusp of her 50th birthday.

News organizations from around the world jumped on the story. Judging by the number of headlines in pretty much every major (and not so major) media outlet, I doubt Michelle could have grabbed more attention if she had said, “I’m thinking of becoming a Republican.”

Comments from all camps started pouring in right away. There were the politicos who thought that given that she’s the First Lady of the United States, it’s wrong for her to get Botox because tax payers would be the ones footing the bill for her “work”.

There were the downright nasty ones, saying things like, “Whatever she wants. She can use the help.” And, as expected, there were those who used the First Lady’s comments to pick up on the endless debate about whether it is right for women, especially those of a certain age, to be so concerned with their appearance.

For the record, I’m pro-choice; get work done, don’t get work done, but do whatever feels right for you. (And while we’re on the topic, I am not the fashion police. Yes, Fabulous After 40 is about fashion and style advice for women but I never want to come across as if I’m preaching there’s only one way – my way – to look good.)

My friend Lynn, has a slightly different view. While chatting about Michelle’s comment she told me, “I agree that women should be able to do what they want but here’s the thing, if everyone else starts getting Botox and filler, it makes me feel pressured to do it too. I  don’t really want to go to the trouble and expense but if I don’t, I’m afraid I’ll end up being the last wrinkly, saggy woman standing.  It’s like that peer pressure we experienced in high school, only instead of having to have the latest designer jeans, now it feels like you have to have the latest face or body.”

I agreed with my friend that it would be nice to just all age together, but with Botox etc. as common as going to the dentist, that’s never going to happen. It made me wonder if the same kind of debate went on when hair dye came into vogue in the ‘50s and ‘60s.”

So ladies, here’s my question to you: why does something like this hit such a nerve? Why are we gals so quick to judge each other – and often so harshly – on our appearance?

Does it have to do with the Tall Poppy Syndrome, where we resent, criticize and attack people we see as richer or prettier or more successful than us? Are we afraid that if everyone else starts getting Botox and we don’t that we’ll be at a disadvantage?  Or do we simply feel that a woman who has a cosmetic enhancement is sending a negative message about aging? What do you think?






Help for Your Racoon-Like, Dark, Undereye Circles

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Waking up with dark circles under your eyes is not the most fun morning surprise, and the older I get the more it seems to be happening. I talked with celebrity make-up artist Sana Young to find … Continue Reading

Can You Wear Red Lipstick at 40, 50 and Beyond?

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Bold, red lips look radiant this fall on the runway and popping out at us from beauty ads. But let's face it,  the red lips we're seeing all belong to fresh-faced twenty somethings! Can you wear … Continue Reading

Look Real in Faux Eyelashes

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Long False Eyelashes, once the magic beauty tool of models and movie stars, have gone mainstream. That's great news for gals 40, 50 and beyond whose natural lashes are usually starting to thin, get … Continue Reading

Is My Hair Dragging My Face Down?

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Sometimes you've worn your hair the same way for so long it's hard to know what looks good anymore.You know what I mean? Such was the case with one of my readers, Debi,  who wrote to ask if  she … Continue Reading

Mascara -Tricks to Apply and Make It Stay Put

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Last post I chatted with celebrity make-up artist Sana Young about how to have thicker, fuller more youthful lashes. This time, we're talking mascara. What was once a simple flick of a wand has … Continue Reading

Fatten Up Your Over Forty Lashes

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If you notice your eyes are looking a little "bald" these days, blame it on your thinning eyelashes. As we hit our forties our lashes become sparse and more fragile, making our eyes look small and … Continue Reading

The Best Hairstyles for Thinning Hair


We've had some fantastic questions lately asking How to keep hair shiny, how to grow gray gracefully, and what are the best hairstyles for black women. Now here's an email I got about a very common … Continue Reading

{Product Review} Skin Beautiful Dermaceuticals: Think Beautiful, Be Beautiful

Deluxe Anit Wrinkle Kit Option

This is a Fabulous After 40 sponsored conversation. All opinions and results from testing are my own, Sheila Hill- guest Beauty reviewer. As a beauty reviewer, I've tested countless skincare … Continue Reading