Help! I Need A Low Maintenance Hairstyle

long hair over 40Dear Deborah,

I have only ever had a couple of hairstyles – in my LIFE and they happened in my teens. I have been trying to grow my hair long and this is the longest it has ever been, to my armpits. It doesn’t seem to ever get longer. I love my hair, I’m a Leo and it is my mane. I do not color it in order to keep the condition and have a record of shocking hair cut disasters which make me feel about hairdressers the way most people feel about going to the dentist.

I have been tossing up for over a year and friends have even told me straight up, “It’s time to do something with your hair.” I need low maintenance, but something that looks stylish and semi-professional without going too short. Please save me from my self! PS. I’ll be 40 in August. Julie

To answer Julie’s question I turned to my friend, one of the best in the business, celebrity stylist Christopher Hopkins (The Makeover Guy). Here’s what he had to say.

Hi Julie,

The lowest maintenance hairstyles are those that mimic as closely as possible what your hair wants to do on its own.

That being said, the simplest hairstyle to maintain for you is a one length bob. Now the question is where is that ideal length?

blonde gwyneth paltrowVisually that length will be best on you between shoulder and below the chin. Since you have hairdresser phobia, and I understand, I would start at the longest of the length choices.

The cut should start at the collar line in the back and descend at an angle ending at or slightly above the clavicle.  It doesn’t need to be a blunt precise bob. That is just the length guideline. By cutting into the line of the bob you can create a more free flowing/natural line that can use your natural wave to its full advantage.

Do not be afraid of color. It will add body, shine, luster and youthfulness to your look. You do not need to use bleach which can  be harder on the hair if done improperly, but a high lift tint that is similar to the color of your ends. It looks natural, but will definitely lift the entire look.

What will be most important, however, in regards to your desire to look semi professional and stylish will be your makeup. A professional brow grooming makes the biggest difference on any woman. As we progress through our 40′s brows and lashes diminish and fade. Well groomed brows, mascara or tinted lashes, as well as skin evening and soft lip color will look natural, sexy but not “made up.” More important than hair, I always say, is restoring the face that fades with time.

Finally, it appears you may have some thinning hair at the part. There is a product called Dermatch that I recommend and the color light brown would be perfect for creating the illusion of thicker hair. You can get it at

Use of a flat iron, or thermal curling iron to create a less “fluffy and dry” look will appear more contemporary and polished. I hope that helps!


“The Makeover Guy ®” Christopher Hopkins encourages women worldwide with his entertaining and informative image improvement advice. His best selling book “Staging Your Comeback, A Complete Beauty Revival for Women Over 45″ as well as his viral internet channel,, continue his legacy helping women at any age and any stage look and feel their absolute best.


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