Why Did Michelle Obama’s Botox Comment Hit Such A Nerve?

Michelle-ObamaLast week Michelle Obama made news by not ruling out having plastic surgery or using Botox one day. “Women should have the freedom to do whatever they need to do to feel good about themselves,” the First Lady told People magazine in an interview on the cusp of her 50th birthday.

News organizations from around the world jumped on the story. Judging by the number of headlines in pretty much every major (and not so major) media outlet, I doubt Michelle could have grabbed more attention if she had said, “I’m thinking of becoming a Republican.”

Comments from all camps started pouring in right away. There were the politicos who thought that given that she’s the First Lady of the United States, it’s wrong for her to get Botox because tax payers would be the ones footing the bill for her “work”.

There were the downright nasty ones, saying things like, “Whatever she wants. She can use the help.” And, as expected, there were those who used the First Lady’s comments to pick up on the endless debate about whether it is right for women, especially those of a certain age, to be so concerned with their appearance.

For the record, I’m pro-choice; get work done, don’t get work done, but do whatever feels right for you. (And while we’re on the topic, I am not the fashion police. Yes, Fabulous After 40 is about fashion and style advice for women but I never want to come across as if I’m preaching there’s only one way – my way – to look good.)

My friend Lynn, has a slightly different view. While chatting about Michelle’s comment she told me, “I agree that women should be able to do what they want but here’s the thing, if everyone else starts getting Botox and filler, it makes me feel pressured to do it too. I  don’t really want to go to the trouble and expense but if I don’t, I’m afraid I’ll end up being the last wrinkly, saggy woman standing.  It’s like that peer pressure we experienced in high school, only instead of having to have the latest designer jeans, now it feels like you have to have the latest face or body.”

I agreed with my friend that it would be nice to just all age together, but with Botox etc. as common as going to the dentist, that’s never going to happen. It made me wonder if the same kind of debate went on when hair dye came into vogue in the ‘50s and ‘60s.”

So ladies, here’s my question to you: why does something like this hit such a nerve? Why are we gals so quick to judge each other – and often so harshly – on our appearance?

Does it have to do with the Tall Poppy Syndrome, where we resent, criticize and attack people we see as richer or prettier or more successful than us? Are we afraid that if everyone else starts getting Botox and we don’t that we’ll be at a disadvantage?  Or do we simply feel that a woman who has a cosmetic enhancement is sending a negative message about aging? What do you think?






{Product Review} Skin Beautiful Dermaceuticals: Think Beautiful, Be Beautiful

This is a Fabulous After 40 sponsored conversation. All opinions and results from testing are my own, Sheila Hill- guest Beauty reviewer.

As a beauty reviewer, I’ve tested countless skincare products. Many make lofty claims while others promise the bare minimal. I’m always looking for the product that will set itself apart from the others. I expect it to have a distinguishable characteristic or result that will “wow” me.

When I first heard that Skin Beautiful Dermaceuticals™ promised to be meditation for my skin, I knew I had to try it and see the results for myself.


Skin Beautiful Dermaceuticals™ combines quality skincare products with a special technique similar to meditation for proven great results. It targets the problem areas that women over 40 struggle with most frequently, including fine lines, wrinkles, and discoloration.

For a more detailed description of how the “affirmacizes” (meditation for your skin) work with in combination with the hyperpigmentation kitproducts, visit our introduction to Skin Beautiful Dermaceuticals™ post.

I was given the following products to test:

  • Time Reversal Eye Cream
  • Time Rewind Anti-Wrinkle Serum
  • Skin Rescue Oxygen Treatment
  • Refining Micro-Peel Pads
  • Dermal Nutrition Antioxidant (DNA) Repair Cream


  • Initially, I felt a little silly doing the “affirmacizes”. This type of thing seemed more appropriate for a yoga studio than my bathroom. But after a few days, I realized just how powerful these daily affirmations can be, especially for those affirmacizeswomen who have really lost confidence in their appearance.
  • The “affirmacizes” served as reminders that beauty really does begin from within our bodies and works its way to the outside.
  • It’s easy to be overly critical of our appearances once we hit 40. These repetitive reminders helped me to not only look beautiful but to feel beautiful too.
  • I’m not a big fan of facial exfoliators. I suffer from rosacea and most exfoliating products are abrasive and leave my face bright red and stinging. The Refining Micro-Peel Pads were gentle enough to use each evening and left my face feeling smooth. I was surprised that they actually helped clear up some discoloration, such as the dark shadows I have in the inside corners of my eyes.
  • One of my favorite products was the Time Reversal Eye Cream. I’ve tried several eye creams that target lines including crow’s feet. I haven’t had much luck. I was thrilled with the results of the Time Reversal Eye Cream. I saw significant improvement in the lines under my eyes, and my crow’s feet were less prominent. I used this product each morning and evening after cleansing.
  • On my forehead, I used the Time Rewind Anti-Wrinkle Serum. This is best used for those areas with deeper wrinkles caused by repeated facial movements. For me, my forehead was the perfect place to use this serum. Although the serum was a bit thin and watery, it worked wonders on my forehead. I saw a definite reduction in my forehead wrinkles. They were not totally eliminated, but they were reduced to the point where I was incredibly pleased with the results.
  • For the rest of my face, I used the Skin Rescue Oxygen Treatment. Other than my forehead and crow’s feet, the rest of my face shows very few signs of aging. This product is more of a defense mechanism than a repair product. It was best for use on my cheeks and chin where I want to protect from future damage.
  • Lastly, after cleansing and applying the serums, I applied the Dermal Nutrition Antioxidant (DNA) Repair Cream. I loved how this cream targeted the redness that I have as a result of rosacea. While it didn’t eliminate all of my redness, when used repeatedly, there was reduction in my redness by about 30%. This repair cream is like applying liquid silk to your skin. It’s so soft and soothing and has a cooling effect on my skin.


I was pleasantly surprised to find that Skin Beautiful Dermaceuticals™ products are comparable in price to high-end drugstore brands. Individual products range from $10 – $49. The kits which are a combination of 4 – 5 full size products start at $139.00.

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