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Is there a time in life when jeans are no longer appropriate to wear?
I am 60 and am a size 14 pear shape with a very casual life style.
~Sharon B.
Hi Sharon,
Great question! We think you can wear jeans forever, however you really need to keep them updated.
When you are a pear, that means making sure you get the style that fits!
You probably will need to still take them to the tailor to get them to fit.
These jeans are updated and look great, but will not work for a pear shaped body!
Here are some ways to update your jeans:
- Wear a cropped jacket with a casual t-shirt
- jeans with rips and faded wash are “iffy” for women over 40.
- Darker wash jeans are classy and updated!
- Wearing jeans with traditional clogs is comfortable, but tend to age women over 40 unless you wear the new high heel version of a clog. (*if you disagree with this comment, go to our past post about clogs)
- For fall, boots are the way to go with jeans. Flat ones for casual, heels for a dressier look.
- For those that are pear shaped, you can tuck in and wear a belt…so those with other body types, try them with a longer top and belt at the hip or for go the belt all together!
After 40, we find we are all wearing jeans more than ever. Make sure yours fit well and you are wearing the right shoes with them.
Cheers,
JoJami and Deborah
This belt is not flattering and the bow is too cutesy for my taste!
Here is a dress that I (JoJami) have had in my closet for a while. I love how comfortable it is, but the self belt made this dress look too cutesy pie, looking for me. Also, it sort of made my tummy look fat. So I tried it with a wide leather with stretchy in the back belt that I bought recently and it updated the dress immediately! It is also much more figure flattering! 
So, why not go in and see what dresses you have that you can change out the belt and look better!
The other day, my Aunt Mary called me to ask me a question on what to wear to an upcoming wedding. She mentioned that this was an evening summer wedding and she wanted to be cool and comfortable, but still look classy and fabulous after 40!
Here were here choices:
- A light yellow linen suit
- Blue sleeveless cotton pique dress (lined) with self belt. (bought on sale!)
This dress has a "self" belt
I asked her bring over the 2 options. The yellow suit was just too boxy looking and looked a little too casual for an evening wedding. The blue dress was really pretty, but there were 2 issues.
- The thin belt that came with the dress was not flattering
- She would need to buy a sweater to wear with it.
The first advice I gave her was to try the dress on with NO belt. How many of us feel that, just because a dress comes with a belt, we HAVE to wear it! As we age, our middle thickens and tiny pieces of fabric around our waist does not look so great on many of our middle age bodies! So, we got rid of the belt and the dress looked a million times better on her.
Next, she felt she needed a top or sweater to wear over the dress to hide her arms. I took one look at her arms and said, be proud of your arms! They look fine! Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves!!!
However, she did want to get a sweater, since the evenings are starting to get cool in our area back east. The neckline on this dress is wider than normal, so not every sweater will work.
Here were her marching orders:
- Find a sweater that is not too long, best if it is shorter.
- Make sure to take the dress with you when you shop, so you can try it with the sweater.
- Make sure the sweater is a thin fabric and does not compete with the neckline
- Find a pair of nude shoes to go with the dress.
- Do not try to wear a necklace with this type of dress. Instead, just wear earnings and a cuff style bracelet.
It ended up that Aunt Mary, went out to find a sweater and and ended up with a new suit, instead for the wedding. Bottom line is, when buying a dress on sale, make sure you LOVE it!
If it comes with a self belt, throw it away and use a leather one or not one at all!
For more great tips on how to dress for a wedding, check out our e-book, Tweak Your Chic, Dressing the Mother of the Bride!
You can download this e-book now and get instant access to all your questions!
Dress with no belt...looks much better!
Pictures don’t lie! It is amazing how many of us imagine ourselves one way and in reality look another! Nothing like a reality check!
Take for example one of our readers Janet O. who thought she might have to give up this dress…
Hello Glam Gals,
When is short too short? I have several dresses that hit me above the knees. I am not a fan of my knees (I call them “thnees” – thighs that merge into my knees with no definition) but these dresses are so comfy I continue to wear them.
What do you think? Time to hang them up?
~Janet O
HI Janet…LOL..love your new term! However, you don’t have “thnees”, you have nice knees and you look great in your dress!!!
Keep on keeping on! Your wedge shoes, long necklace and bangles, really look updated too!(so does your hair, the little that we can see of it!)
Your dress is much better than a boring pair of khakis and a polo shirt yet you look totally comfortable and chic.
Thanks for sending us your photos!
The Glam Gals
Can Janet pull this dress off? She thinks she has ugly knees!
Yes, she can! Her legs are beautiful!
This Glam Gal has an updated look and great style!
Dear Glam Gals,
Please do post dresses with sleeves! I have the worst time finding warm weather dresses that are flattering and have sleeves…and don’t give me a cap sleeve and expect me to think it’s a sleeve…I know the difference! Thanks, Kathryn!
Hi Kathryn,
Dresses with sleeves. Yes it is a frustrating problem!! We don’t all have arms like Michelle Obama’s, or sometimes, because of air conditioning, it’s just too darn cold to bare arms. So we went shopping for you Kathryn, and here’s what we found:
| Wrap it up:
Wrap dresses cover the arms and drape the body to show off your best assets. No wardrobe is complete without one! (Nordstrom) |
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| Half way there:
A half sleeve is sometimes all you need to give a little coverage. (Nordstrom) |
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| Romantic sleeves:
This taffeta bell sleeve is romantic accent to the feminine tulip skirt. Love the charcoal color! (Nordstrom) |
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| Poet Sleeve:
Another wrap dress in soft jersey, but this time the sleeves are to die for. Ladylike and classy! (Nordstrom) |
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| Fashion Shift:
We were hard pressed to find long sleeves, but saw several with sleeves like this. the 3/4 length on this shift dress is actually very flattering because it makes the dress look sporty ( therefore making you look more energetic and youthful), but you are quite covered up.(Nordstrom) |
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| Fitted and Fabulous:
Instead of showing off your arms by revealing skin, show off their beautiful shape with a perfectly fitted longer sleeve. (Nordstrom) |
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One of the biggest challenges in looking good in your clothes is getting our weight under control!
I (JoJami) got a call yesterday from a long time friend. We were catching up and she mentioned to me that she “had” to go shopping, since she had recently lost 4o pounds! She said,” You would be so proud of me, I went shopping yesterday and had so much fun because I felt like I could try on things that had some style to them for the first time in years!”
Yes! We agree that when you are fit you will have more self confidence and energy!
We shared with you a while back a few of our readers that have taken looking healthy and having more energy seriously!
One of our readers, Laura Eskstein, just wrote to us and said, “Hi, just wanted to let you know what I have been up too recently. I am having a great time in my 40′s. I have entered a few body competitions and won 1st place in my age division (0ver 40) went to Miami yesterday to film a video for youtube with Jennifer Nicole Lee (ab Circle) and she is using me in her new exercise infomercial!! Very exciting. You never know what will happen in your 40′!!!!”
Laura you are rockin!! Talk about looking Fabulous After 40, thanks for sharing with us!!!
While Laura might seem like an extreme case and she has obviously put a lot of work into getting into shape, she is sure a great example of what you can do if you put your mind to it! There are many ways to get healthy, you just need to find one that fits your style!
Laura Eskstein, Before
After (Laura E. 1 year later)
We are not saying that you have to be stick skinny, but if your looking to tone up and get healthy dieting is not the only answer.
Here are a few ideas:
- Join a gym
- Hypnosis tapes (JJ thinks these work great!)
- Find a friend and get started!
- Find a new way to exercise that you might enjoy (Zumba, hiking club, ballroom dancing!)
Let us know what you are doing to get fit for Spring! Comment below:
When you have curves it can be tricky to find clothes that have some style to them. However, we have been chatting up the wonderful selections from Lola and Gigi for years and their on-line shop just keeps getting better and better!
Check out their site for more samples of their Spring Collection that covers all the basis from festive daytime dresses to sexy special occasion ones.
Enjoy!
FAF reader, Cindy Mellow, in her recent wedding on the beach
Where do you turn to for advice when you are getting married for the second time and you want to make sure you look age-appropriate? Call on the Glam Gals, of course!
Looking Age-mazing™ for a wedding or any special occasion can be a challenge when your over 40 and want to make sure you not trying to look too young or too old.
With our e-book, Tweak Your Chic™, Dressing for the Mother of the Bride, we have a plan on how to approach shopping for any special occasion not just weddings! This e-book is packed with tips and a worksheet to make shopping a breeze for any upcoming event.
Here is are just a few of the issues we solve:
- Finding the right dress for your body type
- How to pick the perfect accessories
- Where do I start?
For all of December, when you buy our e- book, we will be happy to answer up to 5 style questions (via e-mail) that you might have. Just write and e-mail us photos for us to review to: info@fabulousafter40.com
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We recently posted a letter from a reader who can’t wear heels because of foot problems and wanted to know if she could wear leggings with clunky flats.
When we mentioned that instead, she should try some flat boots, she ran out and found a pair at Nordstrom’s!
Now leggings and jeans are fine, but what if she wants to wear a skirt? Since these boots are very casual they will be look best with pants…
Flat boots like these will be comfy for those with foot problems
However, here is a skirt that will work with them too. You could also try a casual dress, like a sweater dress.
Colorful skirts make fall dressing festive
Don’t forget to make sure to find opaque hose (not sheer) or tights that match the boots. This will give the leg a longer look.
We went to Boden.com and Spiegel and found lots of great casual styles to choose from! At Boden, you can even “try” the clothes on a fantasy model and see what they would look like on a person!
Here is another combination we liked:
This skirt from Spiegel, would be a good length and weight to balance this boot.
And, for extra comfort and support, don’t forget some Dr. Scholl’s inserts!
Hi, Deborah and JoJami,
I would love your advice on how not to look frumpy when I have to wear clunker shoes because of foot problems. Because of an old skiing injury, I have been unable to wear heels since I was in my 20’s, which makes it hard to look and feel sexy, or even professional, when I want to dress up. I’m limited to certain brands of shoes recommended by my foot doctor and orthopedic surgeon so it’s not just a matter of being able to wear flats.
For example, I’d love to wear leggings this Fall as shown in the photo on your website, but I can’t wear heels.
I’d appreciate any advice you can give me. Many thanks!
- Nancy
Dear Nancy,
We sure wish we could wave a magic wand with your problem, but it is not that simple. However, your problem is one that many women face. We get letters all the time from women that can not wear heels.
That being said, you can still look fabulous but just have to try styles that might not be the latest trends.
The good news for you is that with styles changing so often, almost anything goes when it comes to pant styles.
When you are stuck having to wear clunky shoes, there are several things to make sure you do not do. First off, is leggings will be out of the question for you. Since the style is really a “pencil” shape, no matter what you do, legging will just not look good with a clunky shoe. Instead, you will need to opt for any pant that has a wide leg and (or) has some flair at the bottom.
This will still be stylish, and you can wear almost any shoe. Also, there are some great brands of shoes out there that do sell some comfortable shoes that don’t look orthopedic.
Here are some styles from Zappos.com that we suggest:
 These Taryn Rose flats are comfy and stylish |
Actually if you can wear this type of flat shoe you could still wear it with a skinny jean and look great! |
 This is good with pants only! |
Once you have to start wearing more orthopedic looking shoes like these, you can easily see that style starts going out the window. |
 Another simple but elegant choice |
However once again, if you wear these with the right style of well-fitted pants, you will still look great! |
Is fear of flabby arms are on your list?
If you were to make the top 10 list of getting old what would they be?
We know many of you worry about how to deal with flabby arms. ( The Glam Gals suggest that you try a great shape wear product called Sassybax)
Bottom line is when you look at your fears face on, you might be surprised to find there are some ready solutions to many of them…
This is just one of the topics in this weeks Blogging Boomers Carnival #132, that you might find interesting.
To read more about this and other Boomer topics, you can check out at this weeks Carnival host, our friend Rhea over at the Boomer Chronicles.
Today we wanted to share another cute article from our guest bloggers at Writing without Periods. Here is Jenny’s saga of “if the dress does not fit, what then?”… ENJOY!
Adieu Perfect Dress, Until We Meet Again
by Jenny Archer
THE DRESS
Three years ago, I searched many department stores and boutiques, tried on many other dresses that didn’t measure up until I finally found it. When I slipped into it and looked into the mirror, there were no doubts in my mind. This was THE PERFECT ONE. It was love at first sight. We were made for each other. We complemented one another in every way — our shapes, our coloring. THE DRESS was simple and comfortable. Beautiful. I took a deep breath before I wrote the check. I had never paid as much for a piece of clothing. But I decided it was worth every penny.
A couple of weeks later, I wore THE DRESS to a ceremony where I was a finalist for a writing award. I required no Spanx that night. The PERFECT ONE fit like a glove. I didn’t win the award, but I still looked and felt like a winner, thanks to THE DRESS. I went home, had it cleaned, and put it away in the back of my closet to await another occasion worthy of its class.
That event occurred last month in Washington D.C. I packed THE DRESS carefully for the trip, treating it with the reverence it deserved. I packed my Spanx, too, since I was pretty sure I had gained a pound or two over the last 3 years.
On the night of the event, I wiggled into my Spanx, took THE DRESS off the hangar, slipped into it. Reaching behind me, I pulled the zipper up to my waist — that’s where it stopped. I needed help. I asked my roommate to zip it the rest of the way. She tugged the sides of the bodice together in back, tugged harder, said, “I’m afraid I’m going to break the zipper if I pull it hard enough to close it.” Another tug, then she added, “I don’t think it WILL close.”
The "other" dress
“Ohmygod!” I shrieked. “Have I gained weight in my back?” Reality check: If I couldn’t zip up while wearing the Spanx, I had gained more than a couple of pounds over 3 years time. That didn’t bother me as much as the realization that I would not be wearing THE DRESS that night. I hadn’t brought another dressy frock, so I had to wear this one, which is funky and fun, but I was a bit casual for the occasion.
Oh, well. When I was 14, my junior high homemaking teacher taught me that when it comes to fashion, a woman can get by with just about anything by following this simple rule of three: “Sit up straight, hold your shoulders back, and stick out your personality.” So that’s what I did.
My perfect dress and I will share another special night. That is a promise. I love it too much to let it go forever. (Besides, it was too damn expensive to only wear once!) I read an article today written by somebody supposedly in the know who said it’s a fallacy that women gain weight as they age because of hormonal changes. Said person in the know claimed that the weight gain is due to the fact that we become less physically active, and that by exercising and eating sensibly, middle aged and older women can maintain their slim figures.
I’m putting the expert to the test: I found that Yoga video and pulled it out, dusted it off, and soon it will make its way into the old VCR. And I’m trading in my almost-nightly glass of red wine for Mary’s Mellow Mellow.(Find recipe here) When I am able to zip that zipper again, I’ll post a photo of me in the dress, but please don’t hold your breath. It might take awhile!
Thanks Mary and Jenny for your fun take on another common fashion dilemma! Also be on the lookout for more of their witty antics, since they are now officially members of our weekly Blogging Boomer Carnival!
Welcome aboard!
JoJami and Deborah
It is easy to feel frumpy after 40, especially when life in general is all about dressing casually. I (JoJami) was out on a group hike over the weekend, and was chatting with a fellow hiker about her frustrations with her everyday dressing techniques.
Dresses are a great summer option to shorts or capris
Hiker Sue: I am petite and my middle has spread, even though I exercise and eat moderately. I am not interested in looking fashionable, I just want to dress age appropriately.
JJ: I understand how you feel, we hear the same story from our FAF readers all the time who write us and complain that they can’t find anything at the store anymore.
Hiker Sue: What I do now is wear the same “uniform” that works for me. I love khaki pants and simple t-shirts. I also find that I don’t wear heels much anymore, because I like to be comfortable when I walk around town.
JJ: Well, have your tried putting little dresses into your casual wardrobe? They are so wonderful, you feel more feminine and you can wear flats or heels with them.
Hiker Sue: You know, a lot of women have given up wearing dresses because of chaffing! Their thighs rub together and it makes wearing dresses really uncomfortable!
JJ: Actually, I have not really thought about that!!! Thanks for bringing it up!!
Oh my, chaffing thighs under dresses is a terrible problem. But ladies, there is a solution!
If you find wearing dresses uncomfortable, we highly recommend that you wear some shapewear under your dress. The little “bike short” style is just perfect to go under any sundress and will totally eliminate the chaffing problem. We found a ton of these over at Bare Necessities in a variety of styles and sizes. Make sure you grab the thigh slimmers that have a flat band around the leg opening so they don’t roll up, and long enough for comfort (probably right above the knee). Not only will they stop your thighs from rubbing together, they will smooth out your legs and midsection too!
So we hope you will go out and try on a new dress and add it to your casual wardrobe. Find some cute flats and also some matching heels and see how you feel!
Then send it in and let us share it !!!
Meet the Blogging Boomers!
We have had a great time participating, hosting and blogging in the past year, with a group of expert bloggers, better known as The Blogging Boomers Carnival.
Each week one of the members hosts and this week it is our turn to introduce you to our members. So here they are, the infamous BBC #126 and a short blurb about the topics they are discussing this week:
Bathing suits–let’s not kid ourselves says SoBabyBoomer–are underwear, but worse. For, unlike underwear, they do not work behind the scenes. Bathing suits are the whole show. Now, especially for boomer women, new innovation is emerging in bathing suit design.
Barbara Weibel at Hole In The Donut Hole travels to Chicago, the home town she fled oh so many years ago, and discovers that her toddlin’ town is an awesome city!
Can’t remember the last time you spent a day without your cell phone, email or even a clock? Janet Wendy at GenPlus found a day at Whistler, BC, really was a reminder of our need for connection to Mother Earth.
Yes, you can be 51 years old and still learn new things, like how to play the violin. This exciting news you can read more at the The Boomer Chronicles.
BLURB: Have you checked your brain plasticity today? The Midlife Crisis Queen says you had better get to it!
Vaboomer.com will NOT see the new movie “Orphan”, read why:
If the thought of putting your dog into boarding kennels is derailing your travel plans, Ann at Contemporary Retirement has a potential solution.
Mediation lawyer Laurie Israel tackles affairs, “training marriages’, marital mediation and a whole slew of other topics in her latest article on LifeTwo.
Midlife crisis has killed many a marriage. But what if there were a way to turn that crisis into an opportunity and save your marriage. Dina Eisenberg shares what happens when one wife ‘just says no’ to divorce and saves her marriage.
Andrea J. Stenberg at The Baby Boomer Entrepreneur asks “Doesn’t anybody follow up any more?” This little rant about lack of follow through should be a warning to business owners.
And here at Fabulous After 40 the Glam Gals post the question, Do comfortable shoes have to be ugly? You can see some good examples and you might win a free pair to!
Cheers for now,
The Glam Gals
JoJami and Deborah
Our reader Kathryn recently wrote us to ask what to wear to an informal class reunion to be held at the local pub, in the dead of winter (it is winter for our readers in Australia) .
Katherine sent this photo and asked, "Does this look good on me?"
The grey and black layered and belted look, shows that she is up on her fashion trends, however we felt that we could dress her cute figure to flatter it a bit more. So we sent her some homework and asked her to send us what she came up with.
Here are the other options she sent us, for round 2:
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Even though it is an informal event, we think this outfit is way too casual if Kathryn wants to dress to impress! The layers hide all her curves, and the checker shirt and clunky shoes make her look very masculine. The long, light colored top is the wrong proportion on the body, and makes her legs look very short in comparison. This is definitely not a look we’d recommend. |
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This look is much nicer! It looks classy and crisp, and the shapes flatter her figure. The only point we’d make is that it’s just too conservative! From the first outfit to this one, we’ve lost all Kathryn’s style sensibility. Where’s the funky trendiness we saw in the first outfit? |
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Finally, we think this outfit is a slam dunk! The black belt pulls in the narrowest part of Kathryn’s body, and the fact that it’s all one color makes her look longer and leaner. We have the boots again, however she had another pair in her closet that fit nicer and hug her leg, which adds a little sexiness to the outfit. She added back in some of her personal style with the necklace and bracelets. We believe this is the best outfit yet! Our only suggestion would be to add a little color into the ensemble. Perhaps wear a bright colored blouse instead of the white to give your face some color. Maybe try wearing a colorful scarf or holding a colored bag. Adding a pop of color will give her outfit some visual interest, and help her stand out! |
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Kathryn also sent us a picture of her coat. Isn’t it adorable? We love the winter white wool trench with the cinched waist and decorative vintage pin. The A-line is a perfect cut for her too. That just goes to show that even in sub zero weather, you can still look hot! |
Do you exercise enough?
Many of us after turning 40, have experienced yo-yo dieting — losing pounds only to gain them back again after a short while. Since we get so many of questions about weight, especially during the summer months, we wanted to pass along an article posted at Hole in The Donut – the blog that is hosting this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival.
What is a Blogging Boomers Carnival? It’s a group of expert bloggers that write on a variety of different Boomer Lifestyle issues. It’s our way to share with you some of the top blog stories and keep you up to date on not just fashion, but some other interesting topics.
Let us know which stories you like!
Dear Glam Gals
Please advise. I’m a tall woman (1,76 m), inverted triangle with a little tummy. I was given some very long A-line skirts of good quality and would like to shorten them since they are my ideal skirt shape.
I have long, well-shaped strong, not skinny, legs with rounded calves and a tiny hint of X-leg. Which length should my skirts be to look good? I understand that long skirts are not really that fashionable right now and feel that shorter looks more modern.
Thanks in advance – you’ve been a great help since I discovered your site!
Best regards,
Sabine
Dear Sabine,
We agree that A-line skirts are the most flattering for every body type. They balance out a larger top half, and with the extra volume on the bottom, they even make your waist look thinner! Shortening the skirts to the knee is probably the best way to go. That way the thinnest part of your legs will be showing from underneath, and it’s not too short. You don’t want to go too far above the knee, because it will look too poufy, and too long not only shortens your body, but can also be rather dowdy.
However, if you want to try something new this season, you should definitely try a pencil skirt! With your height and figure, a pencil skirt will look really sexy, especially when it hits the bend at the back of your knee.
Good luck!
So now that it’s finally getting warm and we have to wear thinner fabrics to stay cool, it can be frustrating to look in the mirror and see those lumps and bumps! 
Not to fear, this week’s Blogging Boomers Carnival has great tips to fix that image problem and lots of others too…
This week’s host is John Agno from SoBabyboomer.com where you can read all sorts of interesting Boomer topics from getting more PR for your company to 100 ways to detoxify your mind, body and home!
Happy reading!
5. Avoid Pants With Waist Detail
The tummy bow adds bulk which you do not need.Don’t wear pants with belt loops, pockets, bows, buttons, buckles or pleats at the waist. They all add bulk and put the spotlight on your tummy (whether you tuck in or tuck out!) The only pants you should buy are flat front pants with very little or no detail! Sounds boring, but it isn’t.
Why? …because there are all sorts of gorgeous long tops in style right now that you can wear over top. (Thank Goodness tucking out is currently in style!). These casual linen pants might look cute in the catalog, or on a model, but the reality is that you will have to tuck in your top or your stomach will really be emphasized.
Go for plain at the waist!Instead, every woman should have a good, simple,
basic pair of pants with a side zip or flat front. As you can see here, paired with a top, it looks so flattering! Wear it with
shapewear. If your tummy bulge is still quite prominent, get rid of the belt.
Long top over front flat pants is a winning combo.
This similar version from white house black market, is also a good option and it’s half the price.
Finally, here are a couple of casual weekend outfit suggestions to hide your tummy:
Isn’t this much nicer than a pair of jeans or old shorts?
Here’s a
great dress you can wear if you are dieting and exercising away that tummy bulge. This shift is easy to take in as the pounds
come off.
4. Wrap It Up
Wrap blouses and dresses are always a great way to hide the tummy.
The wrong wrap
Here’s a beautiful metallic wrap top, but it stops at the waist, so if you have a tummy this will NOT work!
The right wrap
Instead try something like this wrap blouse.The beautiful portrait neckline puts the emphasis up top by the face, while the shirt is nice and long to cover the tummy. As for the bow, play with it and see. It’s off to the side which makes it quite flattering but if your tummy bulge is quite prominent then you may just want to tie this top at the back.
Patterns keep the eye moving away from the tummy
Another option is a colorful patterned wrap dress. There’s lots to look at, meaning the eye moves around this pattern instead of focusing on your tummy, so don’t be afraid to try one. If you are going to wear a print try adding some chunky jewelry.
3. Don’t Tuck In
Long and loose over the tummy.
Tucking in is going to put emphasis on your tummy and make it look larger. Leaving out will help elongate your body and make you look thinner. Once again, make sure the top is not boxy, or you will not accomplish this goal! One great way to tuck out is to wear an empire top.
We love this deep V top with detailing at the bust that helps draw attention up to your face and away from your tummy.
That little bit extra hides the tummy.
For a more romantic feel, try a blouse. The top flows over the tummy and hides that bulge while the sash sits at the waist. This blouse has a lovely neckline and the flared sleeves that help to widen the shoulders, balance the body and take the eye away from the tummy.
