How To Hide Your Midlife Tummy – Part 5

5. Avoid Pants With Waist Detail

The tummy bow adds bulk which you do not need.Don’t wear pants with belt loops, pockets, bows, buttons, buckles or pleats at the waist. They all add bulk and put the spotlight on your tummy (whether you tuck in or tuck out!) The only pants you should buy are flat front pants with very little or no detail! Sounds boring, but it isn’t.

Why? …because there are all sorts of gorgeous long tops in style right now that you can wear over top. (Thank Goodness tucking out is currently in style!). These casual linen pants might look cute in the catalog, or on a model, but the reality is that you will have to tuck in your top or your stomach will really be emphasized.

Go for plain at the waist!Instead, every woman should have a good, simple, basic pair of pants with a side zip or flat front. As you can see here, paired with a top, it looks so flattering! Wear it with shapewear. If your tummy bulge is still quite prominent, get rid of the belt.

Long top over front flat pants is a winning combo.

This similar version from white house black market, is also a good option and it’s half the price.

Finally, here are a couple of casual weekend outfit suggestions to hide your tummy:

Isn’t this much nicer than a pair of jeans or old shorts?

Here’s a great dress you can wear if you are dieting and exercising away that tummy bulge. This shift is easy to take in as the pounds
come off.

How To Hide Your Midlife Tummy – Part 4

4. Wrap It Up

Wrap blouses and dresses are always a great way to hide the tummy.

The wrong wrap

Here’s a beautiful metallic wrap top, but it stops at the waist, so if you have a tummy this will NOT work!

The right wrap

Instead try something like this wrap blouse.The beautiful portrait neckline puts the emphasis up top by the face, while the shirt is nice and long to cover the tummy. As for the bow, play with it and see. It’s off to the side which makes it quite flattering but if your tummy bulge is quite prominent then you may just want to tie this top at the back.

Patterns keep the eye moving away from the tummy

Another option is a colorful patterned wrap dress. There’s lots to look at, meaning the eye moves around this pattern instead of focusing on your tummy, so don’t be afraid to try one. If you are going to wear a print try adding some chunky jewelry.

How To Hide Your Midlife Tummy – Part 3

3. Don’t Tuck In

Long and loose over the tummy.

Tucking in is going to put emphasis on your tummy and make it look larger. Leaving out will help elongate your body and make you look thinner. Once again, make sure the top is not boxy, or you will not accomplish this goal! One great way to tuck out is to wear an empire top.
We love this deep V top with detailing at the bust that helps draw attention up to your face and away from your tummy.

That little bit extra hides the tummy.

For a more romantic feel, try a blouse. The top flows over the tummy and hides that bulge while the sash sits at the waist. This blouse has a lovely neckline and the flared sleeves that help to widen the shoulders, balance the body and take the eye away from the tummy.

How To Hide Your Midlife Tummy – Part 1

Most of us have it… that darn donut!  It’s right there in the middle between our bust and our hips and it’s hard to avoid after age 40 and a baby or two, short of  liposuction. How can you dress to hide that stubborn midlife tummy that annoys you to no end?

Here are our 5 top suggestions.

For years we’ve been asking why doesn’t someone make a high-waisted thong? Now Spanx has answered our call and more. Their new high-waisted

thong has a lace shapewear panel to hold you in at the same time. Grab these. They’re going to sell out fast!

Spanx…yes this panty is a thong!!!

Look fashionable over 40 this Spring – part 5

Continuing our series on 5 ways to look fashionable over 40 this spring….

Question # 5. Beige… Boring?

The color beige seems to be everywhere this spring, but I’m afraid to try it because I think it will wash me out. Do you think beige is too much of a blah color for women over 40? …Judy

Hi Judy,

Beige may suit you depending on your coloring. It’s true that after 40 our skin and hair tends to fade and we can become washed out, so beige doesn’t always look so good, but with makeup and hair coloring you should be able to beige well if it has always looked good on you before.

If you are still uncertain whether you ever looked good in beige perhaps you’ve just never found the right shade of beige or nude as it I now being called. Cool ash and pink beiges suit women with cool undertones. Warm peach and golden beiges are better suited to women with warm (yellow) undertones.

No

Nice style, but this beige is nearly white and washes her out.

Yes

Keep in mind, a tan always helps make you look better in beige. A touch of white or black with beige can also spice it up, as can accessories.

Absolutely Not

A lethal combination – beige against washed out skin plus an ugly sandal.

Look fashionable over 40 this Spring – part 4

Continuing our series on 5 ways to look fashionable over 40 this spring….

Question# 4 Michelle Obama Style

I really admire our new first lady’s style and I’d like to emulate her look. What’s a quick and inexpensive way to get Michelle Obama style? …Carol

Hi Carol,

Michelle’s unique style has been a smash hit with women for many reasons. First Michelle loves simple classic styles which are universally flattering, and always look age appropriate after 40. The first lady also favors wearing bright colors – a refreshing and optimistic change from black , black, black. And most interesting of all, she chooses to accent her wardrobe with bold jewelry and accessories which really adds a modern twist. Al this, plus the fact that she’s very comfortable mixing a little high priced with lots of lower priced fashions, make her a style icon everyone wants to copy.

The easiest way to get Michelle’s look is to purchase a simple shift dress in a bright color. Michelle loves pink and fuchsia judging by this famous floral gown she wore, and the wonderful shift dress she graced on the cover of Vogue.

Yes

We picked out this cute shift dress with jacket that we could easily imagine her in. If you don’t like pattern, any bright colored shift would do. You might even pair it with a cashmere sweater as he first lady often does and add a bright pin at the neck or some great earrings or a thick belt.

Don’t know where to start to look. Shift dresses are everywhere, but you may want to try J. Crew, one of Michelle’s affordable favorites.

Look Fashionable over 40 this spring – part 3

Continuing our series on 5 ways to look fashionable over 40 this spring…………….

Question # 3 Safari Look after 40

How can I tap into this spring’s Safari look without appearing like I’m wearing a costume? …Jan

Hi Jan,

If you’re a midlife gal, you know how many times this trend has been around the block. It probably won’t be the first time you’ve worn this style, if you opt to buy into it this spring. To make sure you don’t end up looking like an adventurous boomer going on your first African safari, you will want to remember these things.

No

Forget this head to toe one color safari outfit, or you will look like you are wearing a costume. Take a look at this first (boring) outfit and you’ll see exactly what we mean.

Careful!

Now this second outfit definitely has more of a fashion feel, but beware…One of the biggest mistakes we see women over 40 making is buying a long skirt which makes them look matronly. Unless you are very tall with super skinny legs, avoid long skirts.

Yes

This is a better way to interpret this trend. Choose one good piece as your safari focal point. We love this very original leather safari jacket. It’s been teamed up with wide leg white pants, not matchy, matchy beige pants or matchy-matchy leather pants. This gives it a more modern feel. Great heels elevate this outfit from a rustic Indiana Jones look, to sexy high fashion look.

Look Fashionable over 40 this Spring – part 2

Continuing our series on 5 ways to look fashionable over 40 this spring…..

Question # 2 Neon for Spring

I’m 52 and just bought a cute yellow neon clutch for spring. My sister says I look silly and that neon is passé. What do you think? ……. Susan

Hi Susan,
You are right that neon is a hot trend this spring, but we’d have to agree with your sister that it is not the most flattering look for a gal over 40. Why? …

No
First of all neon is super bright, and in shiny patent leather, electrifying. That much contrast against mature skin and hair can look rather harsh, and frankly, tacky. Secondly, neon really works best when used with clothing and accessories that have a “sporty” feel. Neon says casual, not classy.

Yes

If you like neon you’d be better off with something like this
yellow neon tote. It has a sporty feel, is rimmed in black to tone it down, and is better suited to casual occasions like a trip to the beach, or the book club.

Look Fashionable over 40 this Spring

Our post about  How to wear this Spring’s Top fashion trends if you are over 40 was such a hit that we were flooded with questions about other upcoming trends. This week we thought we’d answer a few for you. So here’s: 5 Ways to Look Fashionable this Spring when you are over 40.

Question # 1 Cut out shoes

I’ve noticed a lot of shoes with dramatic cut outs and straps appearing in the magazines. I like them because they are so different and would love to try a pair, but wonder if they are they too trendy because I’m over 40. Also, what do you wear them with? …..Catherine

Hi Catherine,

What you are seeing is really updated strappy sandals that have more of a gladiator or cage feel, as they are also calling it. They’re great for women of all ages. The trick is getting a pair that isn’t too over the top.

No Stay away from styles that are too clunky and junky. Wedges, straps, buckles, zippers… too much going on here for gals over 40.		Yes These Tory Burch gladiator pumps are much more refined and age appropriate.

No No!

Also beware of gladiator sandals that come too high up…. tacky. These are horrible!

No Metallics are hot, but these are too just too bright to be classy.		Yes See how much nicer these toned down metallics are…

… and how great they go with a cute wrap dress like this. The gold shoe is considered a neutral and will elongate your legs!

How To Wear Spring 2009 Fashion Trends -Part 1

Spring Styles are starting to pop up in stores and there’s plenty of choice out there. What are this season’s latest trends, and how can you wear them without looking too old, too young, but just right?

Here are 7 Spring Fashion Trends and our take on how to wear them age-appropriately!

1. Asymmetrical Dresses and Blouses

Michelle Obama led the way by wearing a white crystal one shoulder dress by Jason Wu at the Inaugural Ball. Now this trend is everywhere. One shoulder dresses are an easy way for women over 40 to look sexy without having to reveal too much skin. Just make sure your arms are toned and you’ll look great.

Too Young

Steer clear of styles like this one that are more cavewoman than classy. This dress is just too short for a gal over 40, even if you do have good legs. Unattractive extras like the wide blue strap on the opposite shoulder also detract from the elegance of the dress and the chunky sandals are too extreme for a grown-up gal. This look needs to be cranked down a few notches for anyone over 40.

Age Appropriate

This David Meister one shoulder sheath is just the right length to be elegant but sexy. The dramatic shoulder cutout draws the eye upward and towards the face (and away from any other parts of your midlife body, you don’t want people to tune into). Notice how when the dress has sculptural simplicity you really don’t need to wear much jewelry. Some earrings, perhaps a cocktail ring and you are good to go. Keep your shoes very simple too so you are not competing with the details up top. Don’t forget to wear shapewear with this dress!

Tweak Your Chic, Part II

In a previous newsletter, we talked about how a simple thing like updating your accessories can take you from Frumpy to Fabulous in 10 minutes. This week we have another great example of that for you. Take a look at the subtle changes we’ve made to this all black outfit and how they make a world of difference to the overall look.

BEFORE THE TWEAK

Conservative, safe. She looks very average and out of date.

AFTER TWEAK YOUR CHIC

Much more fashionable, hip and up to date. She radiates confidence! Let’s take a closer look at what we’ve done, below…

	Before Necklace: This wooden chunky necklace is lovely on its own, but paired with this outfit, it’s not the best choice. Notice how the gold on the necklace fights with the pewter on the belt…not a harmonious look. Also the jacket has such a beautiful neckline that this necklace detracts from that. It’s a little too short.
	After Necklace: Much better now. We’ve switched the gold necklace for the pewter necklace to work with the pewter belt. We’ve also gone with a different style of necklace. It’s longer and has multiple strands- which is very in vogue right now. Notice how the multiple strands mirror the draping of the fabric at her neckline. Also the combo of cool brown and pewter is a very modern combination.
	Before Belt: This first belt is a little too thin and the rhinestones make it look dated.
	After Belt: We replaced the thinner belt for this wide pewter belt. Wide belts are a hot item this year. It makes the outfit look much more modern, and really shows off her shape.
	Before Handbag: This Chanel style handbag is very ordinary and on the small side. The gold hardware is too shiny to go with the pewter belt and necklace.
	After Handbag: This large, textured purse totally changes the feel of this outfit from conservative to fashion forward. Now this outfit has personality! Pewter hardware synchronizes the look.
	Before Boots: We see many woman trying to wear 3/4 high boots with skirts and dresses. These boots hit the leg at a funny place and are not very flattering. Better to wear them under pants or a long skirt.
	After Boots: These stretch boots come fit like a glove, up to the knee are both flattering and comfortable. We suggest you invest in a pair of tall boots that fit the calf nicely. Choose a refined heel like this if your outfit is dressy.

Now, let’s look at that Before and After Again…

BEFORE TWEAK

AFTER TWEAK

That’s how you TWEAK YOUR CHIC!

5 Tips for Overcoming a Boring Sense of Style

Is there a part of you that you have always wanted to express to the world, but just never have? Do you have an inner biker chick or something else just waiting to emerge?

Then it’s time to get in touch with your wild side and bring some fun back into the way you dress, so you don’t end up looking and feeling like a dowdy little old lady.

Why not get noticed for the delicious dynamite that you are – and use clothes to do it! Here are 5 easy tips to help you find the real you!

1) Trail blaze a path to you inner style

First, you must be open to a change now, not 10 pounds from now. Finding clothes that fit the body you are currently sporting is important and can help improve self-esteem.

Next, do your research. Look around for inspiration. Do you know someone who always seems pulled together and looks great? Take note of what she has on and shop for something similar. If you feel out of touch and don’t want to end up looking like your 14 year old daughter or 90 year old grandmother, then hire a personal shopper to help show you which current styles would look good on your body type. If it is not in your budget, try asking a friend whose style you admire to go with you.

Are you feeling too conservative and want to try something sexy and and different. Why not try adding a leather jacket, skirt or pants. If leather is just too way out for you, try suede. It has a softer look and feel. Leathers and suede come in lots of colors. Pastel suedes mellow what normally might be considered edgy. When pairing your new item with a conservative counterpart, the look can be surprisingly classy and perfectly acceptable at work. Better still – on the weekend leather or suede, can be worn with jeans and a quality t-shirt.

2) Shop somewhere new

If you’re still shopping at the same stores, in the same departments, why not shake things up a bit? Step out of your comfort zone and try shopping somewhere new. Small boutique stores tend to carry the most current styles and updated merchandise. They also carry small designer brands, so when you buy something, you are sure to look unique in your new outfit.

Chances are that even if you spend a bit more than you’re used to, you will find something you love and adore. You will wear it many more times than just another cheap, boring item from a sale rack. We like to call this price per wear. If you average the amount you spend on an item by the number of times that you wear it, it can justify the original expense.

For example, you may find a funky faux fur vest at a local boutique. Try pairing it with some jeans to run around town in. This one piece may be a bit more expensive than what you would normally purchase but if you absolutely fall in love with it you will wear it frequently. It will be worth the price.

Be careful of sale items that end up hanging in our closet with the tags still on them? Sale items are the trickiest to buy, since the price can woo you into buying an item that you don’t necessarily love and adore and then never wear. It’s always better to hold off and find that next special piece.

3) Life should not be about blending in

It’s time to sizzle, not fade away. Why not shake things up and shoot some color into your wardrobe? This spring you’ll see lots of bright and cheery hues vying for your attention. This is an easy way to add some much needed punch to your closet. Even if you love black, with just a dash of color from a new spring top, purse, shoes or scarf, you can go from dull to dashing in an instant. However, buyers beware! Not all colors look good on all people. If in doubt, drape the item near your face and analyze how it complements your hair, eyes and complexion. Still not sure? A good rule of thumb is that the color should not wash you out, or be so loud you see it before you see you. This is important in making an outfit work for you.

4) Fear of letting go

One of the biggest hurdles to overcome can be all those clothes stuffed in your closet. It’s time to pull up your bootstraps, roll up your sleeves and start kicking booty! We mean get rid of all those old, boring, tired and ill-fitting things. Most women have a closet full of clothes they don’t like or never wear. If you remove those items out of your closet, you’ll have a much better idea of what you really need to buy to keep your closet fresh and inspired!

5) On the road to a great hair day

Let’s face it, if you are still sporting a style that you’ve had for the last 15 years, think again. It just might be time for a change of gears! You can buy the latest clothes and accessories, however if your hairstyle is dated, you will look dated. How do you know when you need a new do? Your first step is to make an appointment with a reputable hair salon.

Ask to book a consultation with one of the top stylists. It might take a few weeks to get a space, but it will be worth the wait. Don’t be shy to go for some color and a new cut or style. If you’ve been sporting a short look for a while, it might be time to let your hair down and grow it out!

Finally, dressing like a biker chick isn’t for everyone, but you probably have a wilder side to you that is waiting to be expressed. With a little effort you can rev up your wardrobe and start dressing with more flair and pizazz. Dress like you are a force to be reckoned with and see if you’re not feeling stronger and more ambitious each day. Embrace all your style…It’s not about just one look. It’s about finding a style that reflects the inner you. Have fun!

How to Tweak Your Chic with the Right Accessories

We find that many women fall into a style rut and start looking really frumpy but they can’t figure out what they’re doing wrong. It’s not always that you need a complete makeover. Sometimes, it’s the little things, like your accessories, that you just need to update. A simple change of accessories can instantly take you from Frumpy to Fabulous.

Here’s How to Tweak Your Chic with the Right Accessories:

Before All Brown

This is the classic button down shirt dress. Our model is wearing it exactly how they sell it with the matching belt. The accessories are pretty plain, basic. We call this the lazy way to accessorize. You just match everything up, not much thought has gone in to it. It is very drab and predictable.

After All Brown

This outfit has attitude. It’s got a safari theme going on and the accessories are up to date and modern. They are also larger and more in proportion to this gal’s size and shape. The punch of color in the accessories gives it life.

Before Necklace

We all some version of a plain gold necklace like this in our jewelry boxes left over from the 80’s. They’re sentimental usually, and real gold after all, so that’s why we like to wear them. But a necklace like this looks too fine, elegant and basically lost on her neck, and on such an earthy dress.

After Necklace

The Safari feel of this dress calls for chunky, earthy jewelry. This necklace is much more adventurous. It has lots of color, interesting, irregular beadwork, and the gold is weathered and more rustic. The nice thing about the colored beads is that they add some brightness to her face and open the door to introduce color into this outfit in other places.

Before Belt

This is the belt that comes with the dress, same material as the dress, thin and floppy. Women assume that’s what they should be wearing with it, when it really just a suggestion. Don’t feel locked into this. Changing the belt will kick your dress up a few notches.

After Belt

This belt not only looks ten times better from a style point of view, but it gives our model and amazing figure. Look at the waistline! The belt has stretch in back and braiding in the front –almost rope like –like vines in the jungle. The color makes the dress pop as compared to a belt of the same color and the texture gives this flat shiny dress a big style boost. The touch of patent on braiding makes it very current as compared to just a braided belt with no shine. Of course, the wideness of this belt is very much now too. Lesson here-change the belt.

Before Handbag

This is classic quilted Chanel style, very 80’s and too elegant and ladylike for this dress. Also it’s very small for her –more of an evening purse. The black color does not enhance the brown. It just drags it down.

After Handbag

This bag is much more substantial and works well with the big heavier belt and more adventurous feel of this dress. This bag is current because of size, and because it has lots of hardware and is finished with sophisticated patent leather. The earthy moss color is a fantastic complement to the brown. It’s nice to have a pop of color in your purse. You don’t have to match belt to purse. That’s a very old rule.

Before Shoes

These brown wedges are sensible and too generic. You want something sexier to match with the bag and belt. These shoes would go better with a patterned dress than a plain dress. This plain dress needs livening up.

After Shoes

These are a wow shoe. They have personality. With a plain dress you need a focal point and if you have good legs play them up with a pair of head turning shoes. These are colorful, textured (suede and snakeskin-very jungle like) and very sexy.

So in summary, take a plain dress and decide on a theme. Punch it up with current accessories that are colorful and have texture to give your outfit more personality.

Tweak Your Chic by making these simple adjustments and you’re sure to look fabulous at any age!

7 Fall Accessories to Help Make you Look Fabulous after 40

Over 40, feeling frumpy? Wondering what to buy this season to zip up your wardrobe and get you back on the style track?

Here are 7 Fall Accessories to help make you look Fabulous after 40

1. Wide Belts

Wide belts are a great way to bring definition to your waist, hide figure flaws and help accentuate a curvy body (Just look at Oprah ~ she wears them all the time!) One great look is to tuck a sweater set or blouse into your pants or skirt and add a wide belt. Any one of these colorful croco patent leather belts would be a modern choice.

You can also use a belt to create a layered look. Slip on a pair of pants, a shirt and a long sweater coat, and then add a 2″ belt on the outside of it all. This Suzie Roher lambskin quilted belt would look great wrapped snugly around your middle, or if you prefer, you could let it hang a little looser, just to one side, to camouflage a jelly belly. If you are extremely round in the middle (apple shaped, rather than hour glass), you need to skip a belt altogether. It will only bring attention to the wrong area.

2. Oversized Clutches

This is an easy look for most shapes and sizes, and adds instant glamour to a suit, dress or even a pair of jeans. This Michael Kors clutch hits the mark this season because of its regal purple shade and patent leather finish.

Exotic animal skins are also a hot trend and that’s why we love this ladylike python headturner by Jalda. Like many of today’s clutches, it has a magnetic latch which makes it easy to get in and out of. Ladies, keep in mind that your clutch does not have to match your shoes. You may have on a brown outfit with brown shoes, but a bright gold or purple clutch spices things up a bit and makes you look good with it. Make a gorgeous clutch your focal point!

3. Gloves Galore

Gorgeous leather gloves in warm autumn shades are a must have item this Fall if you want to look Fabulous after 40. Treat yourself to a pair of short Italian cashmere lined gloves or, better yet, to a pair of glamorous long ones. These brown suede beauties by Robert Rodriguez go perfectly with a sleeveless dress or 3/4 sleeve length sleeve jacket. Not only are they super chic, but they make your jacket more wearable in the winter. Many of our readers ask how to dress to be cool in the Fall, (they’re dealing with hot flashes)…The 3/4 length jacket fits the bill perfectly, but going from the cold to the warm inside will be tricky if you don’t have the right gloves.

4. Winter Wraps

What are they? They are sort of a combination of a poncho, a shawl, and long sweater all rolled into one. We just love this cozy feminine look as an alternative to coats or jackets. This season the wool wrap is at the top of our must have list and are a very versatile piece that works well for the bodies and lifestyles of women over 40. They are easy to wear because they’re loose (1 size fits most) and they can take you anywhere from dropping the kids off at school, to an evening out with your husband.

Our favorites are this DKNY merino wool “Cozy,” and for a more elegant look we love this Badgley Mischka paisley wrap. Not only is grey this season’s hottest neutral, but the metallic threads running through this wrap give it a very hip feel.

5. Ankle Booties

A great alternative to knee high boots, ankle booties can be worn in a variety of ways depending how you feel most comfortable. For more conservative types, ankle boots are great under pants because they’re cooler and more comfortable than wearing a tall boot. Booties styles include ones with clunky rounded toes, wedges, or pointy toes and thin heels. Be clear on your purpose for the boot. We prefer the more refined rather than clunky ankle booties because a too clunky look can look too funky, and you can start looking like a big old horse.

Now, if you feel your style leans more towards the upper end of the fashion scale and you enjoy experimenting with new looks, then try wearing ankle booties with a dress. The key to this look is to choose a bootie that is cut lower at the ankle, rather than one that covers the ankle like the chocolate brown Star Ling “chow chow” pair (Save those for under pants). Dark booties should be worn with dark opaque hose. We love these Ferragamo pleated Narni beige booties but would only suggest wearing them with a monochromatic outfit (taupe outfit and taupe opaque hose, which might be difficult to find!- best to stick to brown and black booties if you can) The dress and ankle bootie combo looks amazing on women with nice legs. It’s not complementary on gals with thick ankles or knees.

6. Statement Jewelry

The bigger and bolder, the better is what this season’s jewelry says. If you have to just buy one necklace or bracelet, make sure it’s a clunky one. This Kendra Scott cuff with fan shaped stones is the perfect way to turn a little black dress into a stunning black dress. The Ippolita Art Link necklace is also a head turner and is very versatile because of its classic simplicity. You only need a couple of really good pieces like this to mix and match with your wardrobe. We can’t stress how important jewelry is and how much it can totally change an outfit instantly.

7. Patterned Hosiery

We are seeing a lot of fun textured hose out there, but we caution you to play it safe with this trend. This is one trend that done wrong (stripes, polka dots, or too much color) can really make you look like Pipi Longstocking! Although printed and textured hose are in, you need to keep things simple and clean. Avoid anything with a big print or that is too textured. Spanx has just created a new line of textured hose that we love. We suggest these tight end fancy chevron pair or the arrow pattern tights. We also love these Donna Karan crocodile pattern tights which are a little more adventurous, but are still subtle enough to be chic.

5 Fall Jackets to Make you Look Fabulous after 40

Your arms may be a little flabbier than they used to be, and you’re likely struggling with some middle age spread, but no one will ever notice if you slip on a great jacket. Ah, structure!! A short fitted jacket can work wonders to transform any 40 + body into a lean mean style machine. And, how fabulous a jacket makes you feel… Chic, together and ready for action!

If you have a jacket on this season’s shopping list, but you’re not sure what kind to buy, here are 5 Fall Jackets to Make you Look Fabulous after 40.

Romantic Ruffles

Though Ruffles are one of the hottest trends this season, they can be hard to pull off if you are over 40. Why? They can look too “little girly” and all of those busy ruffles can just add bulk if you are busty or have a few extra midlife pounds at the waist.

That being said, we adore this red Armani wool jacket. It’s simple, elegant and nips in beautifully at the waist, which is what we always preach (No boxy jacket please! It won’t hide extra pounds. It will only make you look bigger, like a football player)

The key to making this feminine ruffled jacket work is to balance it out with something tailored and masculine (like these simple black pants) to give it a modern edge. The simple “I mean business black heels” are grown-up and sexy. The color red is bold and powerful. If you think you might be able to wear a jacket like this in pink, pastel blue or even with a ruffled skirt, think again. The combination of pastels and ruffles will make you look like an outdated mother of the bride.

Long Live Leather

If you like leather, but you are worried about looking like an old biker, then this is a great jacket for you. It’s a Tory Burch quilted leather jacket with super soft leather diamond quilting and military pomp detail.

Again, it’s fitted (see how it nips in at the waist) so it will give you a great shape. Also, it is a warm brown shade which is softer than black.

Jet Black leather can be too harsh for many women over 40, as in midlife our skin and hair color pales a bit and the harsh black combined with masculine leather creates quite a jarring contrast. (If you feel black leather still works for you, then try something elegant like a swing jacket in black leather.)

Last word about the brown leather jacket above…It is best suited for someone with a small to medium bust, as there is a lot of detail going on with those upper patch pockets. A big bust plus all of that detail will look too bulky.

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Dusters

Very chic and very fun, dusters are hot for fall. Dusters create a nice long line that draws the eye down and makes you look slimmer and taller. (Petites: Be careful with your dusters. Don’t go past the knee.)

This hot shot of Fuchsia is all you need to keep you feeling happy during the long winter and make heads turn.

Metallic + Plaid

Giant plaids, checks and tweeds mixed with metallics are the newest arrivals on the fashion scene creating a glamorous high fashion look.

This Burberrry trench coat inspired jacket is a classic cut, always flattering to women over 40, and it has 3/4 sleeves which makes it youthful. If you want to look Age-mazing™ you have to be willing to try new things. Get rid of that stodgy two button navy blazer and try something like this.

One other tip-with any patterned jacket, make sure the patterns line up at the seams of the shoulders and lapels.

Color + Comfort

Structure is good because it makes a soft body look more angular, but we all want comfort too. That’s why this burnt orange 3/4 length sleeve-merino wool cardigan by Tory Burch is such a find. It’s simple, rich and that pop of color is just what you need to make the statement “I’m over 40 and I’m fabulous!”

Double breasted (very in at the moment) and shiny buttons give it that military feel, but the 3/4 length sleeves, which seem to be everywhere this year, make it a little more casual.

Texture Galore

One thing you’ll notice this fall is texture. There are textured fabrics and interesting textured details on jackets – at necklines, on sleeves and pockets. This Dior Swan Neck Peplum jacket has a 40’s inspired silhouette with waves of gathered fabric at the pockets that give it a cutting edge look.

With this jacket the attention will be on your curvy hips so if you don’t want the focus there, this is not for you.

This Robert Rodriguez textured jacket is tweed and has fabric rosette detailing at the collar. These nostalgic rosettes, plus the long gloves (which you will see everywhere with cropped jackets this fall) gives this outfit a high fashion feel straight out of the 50′s. Here the jacket is paired with a matching skirt, but you can also wear this it with a solid colored skirt or pants. If you want a much more casual look then take off the gloves, pair it with jeans and change your top. A long loose sleeveless satin top or an empire waist blouse that grazes your hip bones, would look great underneath.

Necklaces to make you look like a Knockout!

Looking for a simple way to go from Frumpy to Fabulous after 40? Simply add a great necklace.

Whether it’s a subtle accent or a giant statement piece, a beautiful necklace frames your face and completes your look.

But getting just the right necklace takes some thought.

Here are 5 Do’s and Donts to help you look like a knockout in a necklace.

1. Don’t Wear a Necklace that is Too Tiny

	Too plain This bold jacket and matching top is a lovely, fresh color, but overall it looks a little too plain and bare without jewelry.
	Too tiny Add a traditional, delicate, tiny gold necklace, and it still doesn’t look right. The necklace is dated and looks lost on the neck.
	Just Right Instead try adding a fuller necklace to fill in the open space. A fuller necklace is more modern and it is more suited to the crispness and weight of this jacket. Also, because this necklace is a mix of gold, cream and silver beads, it nicely picks up on the large cream and silver button on the jacket.

2. Don’t Wear a Necklace that Competes with your Top

	Too overpowering Big round gold link necklaces may be in fashion, but that doesn’t mean they go with everything. This necklace is much too contemporary, geometric and bold for this soft, flowing Grecian top with its smooth, draped fabric.
	Too distracting It might be tempting to wear this gorgeous top with a more refined classic flat gold necklace in order to match the snake pin, however if you’re honest, you’ll see that the necklace competes with the pin and takes away from the stunning sweeping neckline.
	Simple and Elegant This unique top is a showpiece itself. Leave well enough alone and in this case, forget about a necklace. The best way to accessorize this top would be by wearing a striking pair of gold hoop earrings or long dangles, and a stunning wide gold cuff.

3. Do wear necklaces that match your skin tone

	Warm Skin The general rule of thumb is to match your jewelry to your skin tone. Deborah (shown here) has warm skin. See how beautiful the warm reds, oranges and browns in her top complement her yellow undertones.
	Wrong color for skin The silver necklace is very cold and icy on her and is a stark contrast to a very warm look.
	Right color for skin A better choice is a warm gold necklace. The little charms have gold and orange in them and blend in with her look. It all flows together very naturally.

4. Do Theme your Necklace to your Outfit

	Too uninspired This gorgeous tropical print is busy and so many may think to leave jewelry out of the mix, but the opposite is true. This fun dress is calling out for a fun necklace.
	Too conservative See how this plain gold box chain adds nothing to the dress. It’s far too prim and proper to do this exotic theme justice.
	Perfect for the theme Instead you need to enhance the tropical feel and a large chunkier necklace made of irregularly shaped beads and stones is more natural and earthy looking, so in keeping with this tropical theme.

5. Don’t Settle for Just One Necklace

	Too bare Many women are confused about what kind of necklace to wear with a wrap dress and so often go bare.
	Too ordinary A long single chain can look nice.
	Modern and Fashionable But the layered look is really popular this season. So, instead of wearing a single chain that looks “just OK,” take it to the next level, wrap it around your neck a couple of times. Then add a second chain for a fashion forward look!

5 Ways to Avoid Looking Fat after 40

Let’s face it, if you are over 40 you’re probably not going to have a figure like Heidi Klum’s. But, even if you do have a few boomer bulges here and there, there are ways of dressing that can actually make you look slimmer.

Here are 5 Ways to Avoid Looking Fat after 40:

1. Steer clear of too many Bold Patterns.

Large, bold patterns are what’s in style this summer and if you’re thin as a toothpick you can pull this look off, but for boomer babes with a little bit of beef you’ve got to be careful or you’ll look like a giant walking bolt of fabric. This is especially true for shorter full figured women who can look totally overpowered by a big print. Instead of wearing a head-to-toe pattern, try pairing a solid pant or skirt with a pattern on top. You’ll still get the bold pattern vibe but you’ll look much more chic.

2. Avoid Puffy Sleeves

Put a short puffy sleeve on a puffy 40+ arm and you’ll end up looking like a cream puff.

Not only does a sleeve like this add weight, it’s a very cutesy, young look that just doesn’t cut it, when you really need to look all grown-up. Puff sleeves may look delicate on the hanger, but all that gathering right at a big flabby point on your arm just adds bulk.

3. Stick to Lighter Colored Shoes

If your calves and ankles are on the heavy side and you don’t want to say bye bye to dresses, then be sure to stick to lighter colored shoes. Calves and ankles look heavier in any shoe that is darker than your skin tone. Also, cute little ankle straps may be tempting this summer, but they will make your calves and ankles look like tree stumps! Large calves and ankles look slimmer when ankle straps are avoided.

4. Cool it when Combining Colors

A garden bouquet of bright bold colors is the trend this Spring. Fashionistas are mixing and matching colors creating some pretty wild combinations. But too many bright colors in one outfit can chop up your figure, making you look short and stout. Be careful not to get carried away with this color blocking trend. Instead, pick a couple of your new favourite shades and pair them with a neutral like white or taupe for a more sophisticated, streamlined look.

5. Lose the Embellishment

Sometimes it’s hard to resist a pretty pair of jeans with lots of detail and pretty embellishment. But, rhinestones, embroidery, fancy pockets, studs and other busy details will only emphasize a part of the body you may not want to emphasize. If you are conscious of your middle age spread, don’t point a spotlight on it by wearing jeans with fancy front pockets or an unusual waistband. If you have a little extra junk in your trunk, avoid too much embellishment around back. The simpler the better, if you don’t want to draw attention to an area.

Sensational Sundresses to make you Look Fabulous after 40!

After a long cold winter wearing nothing but pants, sweaters and coats, it’s a thrill to be able to slip on sundress and step outside. This season sundresses abound in a gorgeous array of colors and styles. Here’s  a rundown of the perfect one to suit your personality and body type.

Short Neck

If you have a short neck, try a sundress like this that opens up at the collar to lengthen your neck and make you look taller and slimmer. This pretty pink dress works day or night. You can easily change up the look by adding a belt and wedge heels.The 3/4 length sleeves are a great way to hide flabby upper arms and do the trick on a breezy summer evening by the water.

Pear Shaped

If you have a pear shaped figure, your hips will be wider than your bust, so to create the illusion of a more well balanced body, you’ll want to play down your hips and build up your top half. This pretty blue 50′s style sundress is perfect for your pear-shaped figure. The wide belt will accent your lovely waist, while the soft pleats float gently over your bottom half. The boat neck widens across the bust and the cap sleeves balance out your hips.

For Dramatic Personalities

If you are long and lean, or rectangular and H-shaped with a thicker waist that you want to camouflage, then this cool summer shift dress is a great choice. But of course, not everyone can carry off such a loud pattern. This dress is definitely a statement piece for more dramatic personalities. No need for a necklace or lots of jewelry… just a simple bangle bracelette and a simple stud or hoop earring and you’re good to go.

To hide a tummy

If you have a tiny waist or an hourglass figure, don’t go near this loose baby doll style. But, if you have a little tummy to hide this a  real winner. The loose flowy front covers things up nicely and the low scoop neck draws attention away from the tummy to the bust. This dress is so flexible it could double as  bathing suit cover-up if you wanted to slip something on to go to the store. It’s got a great ethnic vibe, which is very current and hip.

This empire style dress is also great for gals who have a little tummy to hide. The wide neckline brings attention to your face. The small print will look better if you have fine bone structure. If you are big boned a larger print will balance you out and be more flattering. The sundress pictured here is on the dressier side, since the fabric is crisp and perky! One caution, the border at the hem will draw attention to your legs, so if your legs are on the heavy side, this is not the best for you.

Show off your Shoulders

If you’ve been working out to get buff toned arms this is the dress to show them off in. Just add a little bronzer, slip on this canary yellow attention getter and let the compliments roll in. This color will look amazing on warmer skin tones. This dress has a  Marilyn Munroe look, but you could tone it down by adding a pretty cropped  cardigan.

Add some curves

Here’s a great dress to wear if you’re on the slim side and you want to play up your curves. This spring green sundress with white color blocked bands accents you in all the right places. Notice how it actually draws on curves. No jewelry needed at the neckline because there is already a lot happening there, but a great pair of earrings, either silver or gold, would bring this to life.

Little Black Dress Magic

The little black dress… It’s a girl’s best friend! Loyal and true it comes to the rescue when you’re not sure what to wear. Always right, this classic wardrobe staple, makes you look instantly chic and never goes out of style.

If you don’t own one or feel fabulous in the one you’ve been wearing, then it’s time to buy a new one. Here are:

7 Top Tips for How to Buy and Wear the Perfect Little Black Dress

1. Look for a Dress with a Touch of Sizzle

The beauty of the ‘Little Black Dress’ lies in its simplicity; so make sure the one you choose has clean lines, not a lot of fussiness and frou frou. Do, be sure however, that your dress has a touch of sexiness, like elegant slit up the side, a deep V back, a lacy hemline or some sheer netting across the bust or arms for example. Details like buttons, sashes, cuffs, etc done in touches of velvets, silk tulle and other sumptuous fabrics will create a very rich look.

For example, this Anne Klein black silk dress is flattering to most women. Reminiscent of bygone Hollywood, it has a wonderful deep V-neck halter top and a tied waist with a long silk sash. The skirt is softly pleated and falls just below the knee. This dress can hide a woman’s flaws while subtly enhancing the female form.

2. Make Sure it Fits you Like a Glove

Fit is key to looking like a million in your little black dress. Don’t try to squeeze into a tight dress thinking it will make you look thinner. It will only make you look bigger. Throw away size tags and buy a dress that skims the body without pulling. A lined dress will smooth your figure and Spanx helps give you that sleek look too!

We think this dress hits the mark to show off a woman’s curves without being too sexy. It has a v neck which flatters the neckline and chest area with a cinched waist and softly pleated skirt. It flatters the pear shape body very nicely and with its longer length–hitting just slightly below the knee, most women can wear this dress beautifully!

3. Be Sure the Dress Plays up Your Best Features

For many of us 40+ teensy spaghetti straps and strapless dresses are not flattering. They highlight that midlife flabby flesh we often carry on our arms and underarms. Take a look at your best features and decide what else might work for you. V-necks flatter most body types, but if you have a really long neck, a rounded neckline will look good too. If it’s your legs that still look great, you can go a tad shorter on the skirt. If it’s your waist that‘s still looking wonderful, show that up with a great accent there like a ribbon tie or belt. Wherever you want the eye to go is where you want the detail to be!

For example, this simple, classic, black dress is a good one if your best features are well defined arms or a tiny waist. We love the capped sleeves and cinched waist. Moreover, the length hits just below the knee, which is a flattering stopping point for most figures.

4. Don’t Over-accessorize

Since a little black dress is like a blank canvas you can change the feel this way or by the way you accessorize. But be very careful to not over do it or you’ll detract from the look. The days of matching earrings and necklaces are over. It is much better to just wear a pair of great earrings with a smashing up-do, or a single item like a beautiful pin. Satin gloves with pearls will give you that timeless Audrey Hepburn look.

If you choose a lace dress like this, you won’t need to add much jewelry. There is a lot going on with this dress, so you would want to keep it simple with just earrings and perhaps a single bracelet.

5. Update your dress with Shoes

Shoes are the easiest way to update your dress and a great way to show off your personality. If you want to stray from the classically elegant black pump, try bright red heels, or leopard or metallic beauties.

TIP: Ankle straps on a shoe are not for everyone. Depending on your size, they can cut off your leg and make you look shorter. This woman is able to pull off the ankle strap, since she is tall with slim legs and ankles. (By the way, we like this dress too, since it is flattering on most body types and the fabric drapes nicely to make it comfortable to wear.)

6. Wear the Right Hose

Choose either a nude or black hose- ultrasheer to be sure! Fishnet stockings are a great way to add some glamour. You can go hoseless in the summertime if your legs still look good, and if you wear a self tanner. And, if you choose to wear sandals definitely go for the bare look! P.S. The right shade of “nude,” is one shade darker than your natural color. Avoid buying your hose that are dramatically too light or too dark. It should look as though you don’t have any hose on.

7. Top it Off with the Right Handbag

Yes, there is a right one! It’s this season’s favourite ~ a slim little clutch to tuck under your arm while you are sipping on your favourite cocktail. Your bag should not match your shoes exactly, but should have the same feel. Black always works and patent leather is in right now, but what’s even better, especially this season is a dazzling jewel toned clutch… a great way to give your little black dress a little oomph!.

5 ways to go from Boring to Boomer-licious!

How many times have hit the stores in search of something new and wonderful and ended up trudging home with the same old thing…..another basic white shirt, another black pair of pants, another plain tank top or another simple 2 piece suit with zero personality? Talk about BORING and disappointing!

If you’re stuck in a style rut and can’t see your way out, here are 5 easy ways to go from Boring to Boomer-licious! Check out our examples, and click on the images to enlarge them!

If you are looking for a new fall suit jacket to spice up your  wardrobe, then you probably know by now that grey is new “it” new color. But grey can be lifeless if you don’t do it right.

Grey doesn’t look good on everyone, and for women over 40 grey can really wash you out. So if you finding yourself reaching for this dull grey jacket think again. This jacket is as plain as you can get. It takes the term “classic” to a boring low.

Compare this to the look.  You can still wear grey on the bottom, but perk things up with a colored jacket up top to light up your face. The grey skirt (with flecks of brown) warms her up and the striking slate pendant ties everything together. Funny thing too, these gals are wearing the same tank top but look how much richer the one on the right suddenly looks against the green. Also the suede vrs. wool jacket is a hipper, more relaxed option. (This model could use a little nip in at the bust to make the jacket even more fitted. It looks a tad loose) Suede, Jones of New York jacket ($280.00)

If you’re looking for a pretty dress to wear to a cocktail party or night out, why buy a boring knit that has no shape and just hangs on you like a bag?

Although this dress  is a great color, that does not make up for its dowdy style.

The dress is too long, even if you are tall (and would make a shorter woman look like a dwarf.) These uninspiring flats make it look, oh so frumpy.

Now check out this hip, fun bold print dress by Melessa Masey on the right. O.K. so it reminds you of something you wore in the 70′s. Don’t get set in your ways. Give it another try and see how it works now.

Geometric prints are very current and the lower neckline and 3/4 length sleeves reveal just enough skin to make a 40+ gal look sexy but not silly.

It’s body skimming but not tight, and the hemline is a flirty, flattering length for evening. Even a solid color in this dress would look smashing. Heels finish off this modern look that will accentuate your figure in all the right places and will make you look like a boomer babe!

Do you keep buying the same white shirt over and over again? Even important staples like this need updating now and again.

Compare the shirt which is loose, and unshapely to the below shirt with it’s fashion forward with ruching at the waist and no cuffs.

This chic stretch cotton shirt with button cuffs looks much more current, doesn’t it?

These little details make the difference between looking tired and stale and looking with it. (Theory Luxe Kiki Shirt-$195-Nordstroms)

What are you wearing sweater -wise these days? We see a lot of women with this look. A white shirt paired with a plain cardigan may feel safe but makes you look very predictable.

Instead push yourself to kick it up a notch. This fall chunky knits are in. This is one trend that can be adapted to suit the 40+ crowd. Look how beautiful this sweater and shirt below looks.  So easy to wear. (Ann Taylor)

They’ve taken a white shirt and paired it with a toned down bulky knit (leave the ultra bulky knits for the twentysomethings),then topped it off with a great belt. Instant cool.

We always say the key to looking young is not to try to look young -just keep yourself updated in current styles that suit your body and you’ll automatically take ten years off.

Finally, the little black dress -simple is always best, but don’t be too plain. This round neck long sleeve dress is typical of what many women at woman 40+ might choose. While you can dress it up to make it look sharper why not just move away from something so predictable for a change.

A split v neckline and pretty sleeve instantly kicks it up a notch, so that you go from looking nice to very very N-I-I-I-C-E!!!!!!!(Premise-$325 Saks)

Take 10 years Off in 10 Minutes!

Are you a potential Glam Gal?? Kind of a half baked cookie that looks pretty good for her age, but with a few more minutes in the oven, you could be, oh SO much more YUMMMY!!!

Think it’s too much work to go that extra mile. Then think again.

Here are 7 simple things you can do to take 10 years off in 10 minutes, and make you look Fabulous!

1. Lower your Neckline

An easy way to turn back the clock a few years is to open up your neckline. Steer clear of tops and t-shirts that sit at the collarbone and opt for lower rounded necklines and v-necks.  Another great option is to try a wrap top which will create the illusion of sexy. If you find that too low, just add a camisole to peek out at the V neck. A chunky necklace also helps to fill in the bareness.

2. Layer Your Hair

Want to keep your hair long, but don’t to look like you are desperate to hang onto your     youth. Then try this simple tricky. Layer your hair. Too many older women with long hair wear it dead straight like they are still in high school. Follow the lead of celebs like Terri Hatcher, Cindy Crawford, Goldie Hawn, Jaclyn Smith and Renee Russo and add a little bounce with a good cut and a few layers to frame the face and create volume.

3. Get Rid of the Glitter

What is it about some women that makes them want to light themselves up like a Christmas tree- even during the daytime? We’re talking about those 40+ gals that go overboard with glitter and sparkles thinking shiny will make them look young. Maybe this really is a problem that comes with declining eyesight after 40??? Whatever the reason, we encourage you to look a little closer. Too much flash can really age a gal. If you want to sparkle, do it with your jewelry, and keep the glitz on your garments to a minimum.

4. Forgo the Frosted Make up

Some gals who would never wear glittery clothes think nothing of frosted make-up. But you know it’s really the same thing. And it’s no help that the makeup companies, just love to put frost in everything from eye shadow to blush to lipstick to bronzer. Although it can be tempting to wear frost, be forewarned… Frosted eye shadow, really shows up all the little fine lines and creases. If you must, just dab it on right below the brow, for a nice evening shimmer, but other than that, you’d be smart to steer clear.

5. Pass on Small Prints

Conjure up an image of a little dowdy little old lady and you probably visualize a granny in a tiny flower print dress. Small prints (especially ones with little flowers) can look really matronly.  And, if you have some meat on your bones, small prints will make you look really fat too. Got the picture??!!

6. Pass on Pearl and Gold Buttons

We know a lot of you are attached to your favorite old cardigans with the pearl buttons and shiny gold buttons, but these look old fashioned and too conservative for a true Glam Gal.  Instead opt for sweaters with modern plain flat buttons. And don’t forget you can always replace buttons too. A beautiful button on a plain sweater can create a knock-out look.

7. Exfoliate, Exfoliate, Exfoliate

So easy to do and so often overlooked, exfoliating your skin can make dull aging skin glow!  Once a week will keep your skin looking fresh and flawless.  We love Estee Lauder’s Idealist Micro –D Deep Thermal Refinisher. It heats up on your skin creating a warm sensation and leaves you skin dramatically radiant. It’s an at home alternative to microdermabrasion and makes you feel like you’ve shed mask.