Slimming, Elegant Plus Size Mother Of The Bride Dresses

Dear Deborah,

My daughter is getting married, and I would like to look fabulous. I hope to lose a few pounds before the big day, but realistically I will never be skinny.

Can you suggest some plus size Mother of the Bride dresses that are slimming and elegant? Thanks, June

Hi June,

I’m so glad you aren’t setting unrealistic goals that you must achieve before this special day.  Many women wait until the last minute to get a mother of the bride or mother of the groom dress thinking they will lose a lot of weight, but they never do.

As a result, they go through a terrible time trying to find a dress that fits, let alone one that they like. The best thing to do is accept the weight you are and order your dress ahead of time. If you do drop a few pounds, then have your dress taken in.

It doesn’t matter what you weigh. So long as you choose a style that works with your body, you will look gorgeous in your dress.  Here are some beautiful options.

purple lace mob dress

1. Short Cocktail Dresses


A short cocktail dress is a popular choice for the simple reason that you can wear it again. This gorgeous plum dress could be worn to another kind of business or personal event that called for dressy. The scalloped neckline and hemline are particularly pretty.


blue mob dress


2. Long Formal Gowns


If you prefer a long gown, or the wedding calls for a formal dress, then this navy gown is an elegant option. Here are a few others that are perfect too.

mob cocktail suit

3. Dresses with Jackets


Many women are looking for more coverage, especially over the arms. In this case, you may want to go with a dress that has a matching evening jacket. Take a look at these.



Black mother of the bride gown

4. Black Dresses

Black Dresses:


Yes, you can wear black as MOB or MOG. Just make sure the bride thinks it is o.k. This ruched gown is a chic, slimming option and the lovely neckline with jewel brooch frames the face beautifully.

What are you planning to wear as Mother of the Bride or Groom? Send me a professional photograph is you were just at the wedding and I will post. Photos to

Perfect Plus Size Dresses To Transition Into Fall

The middle of August is a funny time of year. It’s still summer, but in our heads we’re already thinking about fall, at least when it comes to fashion.

If you are a plus size gal looking for a dress to bridge the seasons, here are some great options.

Take a look at these cute transitional dresses that work now, as well as into September and beyond.

(*Excuse the young models. That’s out of my control, but the dresses do work for our age)

Shift Seasons with a Shirt Dress 

This breezy blue Print pocket shirtdress looks cool and summery in warm weather.  One Autumn comes, team it up with black leggings and booties for a chic leggings look.

 blue flower print dresses
Jersey Wrap Dress Works 365!  

There are some styles that work year round, and this shapely faux wrap is one of them. Short sleeves signal summer, but the teal color makes it feel like fall. It’s the perfect marriage.

 teal wrap dress

Landscape Colors

This fabulous fit and flare dress in the color of burning leaves makes you want to cozy up to fall. Once the temperature dips, throw on a jacket or sweater and blend into the landscape.

 floral dress plus size
Knit Fabric Hints at Fall

The coral color is summer; the Jacquard Knit is fall. Combining the two is a smart way to make the transition. This is a great dress to wear in the spring too!

 jacquard knit dress 
Fall Prints MAXImize Your Wardrobe

A romantic Vintage floral print jersey maxi in a muted garden print sends a message that we are heading into harvest time.


 vintage floral maxi dress
Medallion Motif 

This flirty medallion print dress is light and summery but has a back to business feel too. This would be a great choice to wear to work,  starting now.

 graphic print dresses
Shift into Fall

Earthy and natural, this moss green Flavia jersey shift dress looks pulled together in the summer with nude or tan accessories. Punch it up in fall with a shot of navy or black.
  green shift dress
Double Duty Dress 

Florals say summer but these rich shades spell fall. Don’t you love this pretty shutter pleat drop waist dress? – a fresh new style this autumn.


 floral pleated dress

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