Going out for a romantic Valentine’s Day dinner and want to look sexy, but not too exposed?
Here are some tips for What to Wear on Valentine’s Day to look alluring, not desperate at 40, 50 and beyond.
1. Wear Something that Shows Some Skin
Don’t wear a turtleneck on a date if you want to look sexy. That Diane Keaton kind of coverage signals stay away! Showing some skin is youthful and alluring. Notice, I said some.
2. Focus on 1 Area
Letting it all hang out in a skimpy outfit is vulgar. Dressing in clothes your teenager would wear clubbing will make you look hard, tacky and worn out. Everything is heading south after all. So where’s the middle ground?
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To look sexy, not sleazy or silly, just reveal one part of you body. A sneak peek is better than a striptease! If you have a great bust, try a low-cut V-neck top, but that’s it. Don’t wear a mini skirt with that top. Wear a regular skirt, like a knee-length pencil skirt and put all the focus up top. It’s all about balance.
Here are some more great red dresses you may want to check out!
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3. Fight the Tight
Resist the urge to go tight if you want to look sexy. Your clothes should be fitted, but they shouldn’t look or feel tight. Stop obsessing about size tags. If you’re a size 10, forget about trying to squeeze into a size 6, or even an 8. Tight clothes make you look bigger. You need to wear things that skim your silhouette and have some stretch. Looking like a stuffed sausage is not sexy at any age.
4. Go For Stretch and Drape
Soft, stretchy fabrics will flow over your figure and flatter your shape. The wrap dress is one of my all time favorite sexy dresses. It’s usually made from soft silk or jersey, and the gentle wrap hugs your body and highlights your curves.
5. Slip On a Sexy Sweater
Sexy is not simply about baring skin or a tight fit! You can look alluring in other ways. For example, Take a look at this Valentine’s Day outfit below. A cashmere sweater, or any other kind of soft knit makes you look sexy because it is very soft, feminine and touchable.
It will make your sweetie want to reach out and touch you as if you were a fluffy kitten.
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6. Try a Little Leather
Leather with its raw edge signals power, passion, and excitement. Wear it in moderation, not head to toe, or you will look like a geriatric dominatrix! Colored leather is easier to wear than black and looks sexy and modern. A Leather jacket worn over a feminine, flirty dress is sexy.
7. Animal Prints Bring Out the Tiger
Put a little tiger in his tank with a touch of the wild. Any animal print , like an animal print scarf or pair or pumps, is enough to get him roaring.
8. Shiny is Sexy
Shiny or sparkly fabrics allow you to be more modestly dressed but still transmit a very seductive message. Just take a look at reader Donna in her Valentine’s Day dress.
9. Choose Sexy Accessories
The right accessories make an outfit sexy. Cute Valentine’s day outfits include flirty accessories like a purse that swings, sexy shoes, or jewelry that is fun and loose. Dangly earrings, bangle bracelets or a long necklace that lands near your bust is tantalizing.
10. Try A Smokey Eye
Adjusting your make-up can make you more alluring, just try it and see. The eyes are the mirror of the soul, so why not try that dark smokey eye you’ve been reading about to add a little mystery. A dark kohl liner and some smudging will make you look more passionate and playful. Keep the rest of your makeup, lips, and cheeks, soft so your eyes take center stage.
For more great tips on how to look lovely on February 14th, check out these other Valentine’s Day Dressing Tips. And remember, confidence is your best accessory!
What will you be wearing this Valentine’s Day? Let me know by commenting below.
Note: This post was recently updated in Jan 2016 .