Dear Glam Gals,
I know that you both like to shop boutiques and finer department stores but I find that often the sales people sometimes seem to hover over me and make me feel pressured to buy something. What can I do to feel more comfortable shopping in these types of places?
Janet P. ~ San Francisco, CA
We are going to answer your question with one of our own recent run in’s with a pushy sales person. It all started out innocently enough… I (JoJami) was eating lunch at an outdoor cafe, when a lovely woman dressed up in a sassy, chic outfit came up to me with a flyer and said, ”I’m from the boutique next door and we are having a big sale. Won’t you come and see what we have… and by the way, here is a coupon for $25.00 in free merchandise.”
Well, as you can imagine, my adrenaline started flowing, so I gulped down my food, paid the bill and was over there in a flash!
As soon as the gal with the flyers spotted me she smiled and cooed, “Are you looking for anything special?” ”Yes” I replied, “I’m in dire need of a new pair of shorts.” With that said, she quickly got to work, handing me two pair of shorts, several dresses, pants and tops, too! Before I knew it, I was whisked off to the dressing room that was brimming with clothes just waiting to be tried on.
Now, I need to stop here and give you a little back story… You see, I’m currently living in a motor coach and traveling around the country and really have no closet space to speak of. So, anything I buy these days has to be something that I really, really need. In the past, I have always prided myself on being super picky and not buying anything frivolous but because of my current space constraints I have to be “hyper” picky and laser focused.
OK…back to the story…. So I’m in the dressing room trying on the shorts. Not good. They were those cargo style that had too many pockets and straps for my taste. However, I kept on with the rest of the items and ended up “liking” (not loving) 3 of the tops. I quickly checked the prices and realized the total was going to be around $250.00. But after thinking more about it, I reminded myself that I still needed shorts and these tops would just take up room that I didn’t have. However, let me tell you, the pressure was fierce! The sales person had been very kind in helping me and she had even folded the tops and had them all written up at the counter. When I told her that I decided that I did not need tops at this time, she reiterated how great they looked on me and insisted that I should absolutely should have them. However, I swallowed hard, thanked her for all her help and stated that I was going to pass this time.
As you can imagine she was not happy but I stuck to my story and left empty handed.
So the moral to this story is:
When you shop with a clear plan you will save money because you won’t be buying pieces that you don’t need or that don’t go with anything. I was able to walk out of the store feeling good that I didn’t waste my money. Moreover, keeping your list top of mind will mean pushy sales people will not be able to pressure you into buying things that you don’t really need or want.
Finally, don’t beat yourself up about going shopping and not finding anything. There will be times that you will find what you need and times that you don’t and that’s ok. You can only build a wardobe that you love and adore if you stay focused and refrain from adding things to your closet that are not necessary! All those little unnecessary pieces can add up. You’re better off saving your money and then you can justify buying that wonderful piece that you just might come across next time!