Today’s guest post is from Shawna Kaminski, author of Female Fat Loss Over 40.
If you’re on this blog, chances are you have an interest in fashion and looking your best.
Good for you. It’s not all about vanity. It’s about your health too.
Although I’m not a fashion expert, I have an issue with a few things that women our age are wearing.
When did baggy, elastic track pants come in style? How about ugly, comfortable shoes? Wash and wear hair? Is this you? Have you given up on fashion completely? Is comfort really king?
I’m sad to think that these things are the ‘uniform’of so many women my age; in fact, I’m all for comfort and acting my age (which is considerable actually), but I will never resort to these things. Yes, I want to be comfortable, but comfort in my own skin trumps the clothes I wear. Honestly, I think that if you’re wearing these things, you’ve given up on yourself; you are NOT comfortable with who you are physically and then it’s reflected in the styles you choose.
Thank goodness for Fabulous After 40, which has come to our rescue in terms of fashion! I’m no fashion icon. In fact, if it weren’t for Fabulous After 40 and my 17-year-old daughter and fashion forward 14-year-old son, I’m sure I’d embarrass myself on a daily basis where fashion is concerned. The point is that I make an effort. I take pride in how I look, some may call me vain, but I think a healthy dose of vanity is important.
How about you? Do you avoid the mirror or the scale at all costs? Do you think avoiding these things make you look any better? Are you taking care of your health by not paying attention to the scale or your weight? Facing yourself is the hardest step. It can be extremely painful after years of loose-fitting clothes and dressing in the dark. There is no perfection where body image is concerned and sadly we are compared to a standard that is basically unattainable. But you can raise the bar a little by making the effort to take care of your body or at the very least, pay attention.
This is a sensitive area for most. (I should be trying to make a good impression with you for my first guest blog post and I quite possibly am ticking you off). I don’t think I know a single woman on the planet that deep down doesn’t want to feel ‘sexy’ (even if she never says it out loud). As a woman in my forties, I want to feel and look sexy; I want to look good for myself (it’s not about seeking attention from men).
I need to be comfortable with who I am, even though physical comfort is important. When I feel good in my own skin, I take better care of my appearance. This is something that you may prefer not to acknowledge. Don’t be mistaken, I’m not a high maintenance girl; I don’t use a ton of make up or spend heaps of money on designer clothing. This isn’t the point at all. The point is that by I’m paying attention to how I look, I’m also paying attention to my health. Are you paying attention to your health? Or are you hiding behind your ‘comfortable clothes’?
Many of my clients come to me once they make this connection. They aren’t feeling good in their skin and they’re ready to do something dire: exercise. For some it’s a last resort, for others it’s an inevitability that they’ve put off once they realize that nothing else will work to take them back to their former selves.
- Exercise is magical.
Once ladies get off the couch and get hooked on movement, they tend to stand up taller and throw their shoulders back. They get excited about shopping for better fitting clothing.
- Self-care is empowering.
Women tend to be so good at taking care of others and but tend to neglect themselves. I can best take care of my loved ones when I make an effort to meet my own needs too. I’m not suggesting a huge time investment either. If you were to take 30 minutes a day to exercise, you’d be surprised what a positive effect this can have in all parts of your life.
My intention is not to insult anyone. I know these may be harsh words for some of you. I want you to take a good hard look at whether you’re happy in your skin. Feel free to wear what ever makes you happy, but I hope that you’re choosing your fashion, rather than having that ‘fashion’ choose you.
Shawna Kaminski is a certified health and fitness instructor and author of Female Fat Loss Over 40.