Look Sexy After 40 In A Wrap Dress!

Dear Deborah,

I’m recently divorced, back on the dating scene and have no idea how to dress. What can I wear that looks sexy, but  isn’t so skimpy it reveals everything?    Thanks, Liz P.

Hi Liz,

I get this question all the time. Who wants to go out looking like a 21-year-old dressed for night of clubbing? Where’s the fine line between looking sexy and looking sleazy, especially at 40, 50 and beyond?

Deborah Boland Fabulous After 40


My answer is always the same. If you want to look feminine, alluring and classy, I suggest  you try a wrap dress. Whether on a first date with someone you just met or out for a romantic night with your spouse, here are 5 ways to wear a wrap dress to heat things up.

1. Choose a Flirty Print.

Sure you can always find  a black wrap dress, but it doesn’t capture the spirit of the dress or the excitement of a date.

I’d suggest in a dating situation you go for a brighter color and/or a fun pattern ( like an animal print, bold floral or graphic print).

This will make you look lively and a little playful. There are thousands of wrap dresses for women out there like this so they won’t they won’t be hard to find. Here are a couple to show you what I mean.

2. Go for Silk, Silk Jersey or a Soft Fabric

Most wrap dresses are made from some kind of soft fabric and that’s what you want. It has to look and feel good on your skin to be alluring, so in case you do find a wrap dress made of crisp cotton (and there are some out there in summer) stay away. Silk wrap dresses for women are much sexier.

70's wrap dress

3. Consider Shapewear

Wrap dresses follow your curves and enhance your figure so it’s important to have a clean look. If you are worried about bra or panty lines, or any little lumps and bumps, I’d suggest you try some shapewear, like Spanx to erase these problems. You’ll be amazed how a lightweight, stretchy shapewear short can smooth things out and make you look toned and slender.

4. Wear Some Sexy Jewelry

Did you know if you want to look sexy your jewelry should be a little bigger and have some dangle? It should move when you move. Same goes for your hair- No stiff hairdo’s.

5. Don’t Step Out the Door Without Heels

If there was ever a time to wear heels it’s with a wrap dress. Flats don’t cut it, especially when you want flaunt your femininity. Show off your legs by adding a couple of inches. A bit of height enhances the style of this dress and makes you look lovely and leggy.

Have fun Glam Gal!

p.s. more interested in how to look professional in a wrap dress at work? I wrote a post about that too!

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  1. After a sheath dress, wrap dresses are my #2 dress choice – they are all great styles.

  2. I like all three of these wrap dresses, where can we find them?

  3. Where can I find the best wrap dresses?

    • Diane Von Furstenberg makes the best wrap dresses. You can find cheaper version at Banana Republic.

    • Hi Elena,
      I think the best wrap dresses are by the original designer of the wrap- Diane Von Furstenberg. You can find them at major department stores. If you want a less expensive version Banana Republic always has lots. Cheers! Deb