My daughter is having her wedding December 26th at a bed & breakfast in St. Augustine, FL in the Victorian room and it will be decorated for Christmas. She is wearing a beautiful navy blue dress (see photo). I am trying to decide what color dress I should wear and am also looking for something that is not real expensive and could hopefully wear again on an upcoming cruise for our formal evening. If I am unable to wear the dress again, it wouldn’t be a problem though.
My daughter doesn’t want me to wear black and I don’t care to either. She is not having any attendants and it will be a very small wedding. I am petite 5’3” and usually wear a 4-6 petite. I was thinking of wearing maroon or a jewel tone. I am also in my 50’s but don’t want to look dowdy or matronly. My husband will be wearing a black pinstripe suit.
Can you give me any suggestions? I am stressed beyond words at the moment because I don’t know what I’m wearing and it is getting closer to her wedding day. I have no idea where to even shop for a dress and have been looking online, but feel like I am in a fog doing so. Thank you in advance. Penny
It’s overwhelming to prepare for a special event like this. The problem is how do you look good as Mother of the Bride when there are so many choices out there and most of the dresses are being modeled by teenagers?
It’s hard to imagine how a dress would look on you and challenging to know what color mother of the bride dress you should wear.
But Penny, you are on track more than you might realize. From your letter you sound clear that:
- This will be a small wedding during the Christmas holiday
- The setting is a Victorian bed and breakfast, in St. Augustine, Florida
- Your daughter is wearing a non-traditional wedding dress, that is a v-neck with navy blue lace and cocktail length
- You are in your 50’s petite and slim and don’t want to look matronly
- Your husband’s choice of a black pinstripe suit should be easy to coordinate with
So, you have actually got things narrowed down pretty well. Now, you just have to figure out how to get started on your dress.
- Since your daughter’s dress is not traditional and is a cocktail dress your job is a little harder. Your dress will need to be simple so as not to compete with your daughter’s.
- You need to narrow your choices soon so you can quickly decide “yes” or “no” on a dress. You also need to be able to tell a salesperson what it is you’re looking for, not what you are not looking for.
- Next, you need to make a list of the features you want in your dress. Narrow down your choices to styles that are simple and elegant. Nothing with a V-neck or no sleeveless dresses, since that would just be a variation of your daughter’s dress and she needs to look like the star of the show. You need some type of sleeve or jacket, nothing too fancy or beaded.
- A dress in burgundy would be perfect since it is a popular color now and looks rich and elegant. It would co-ordinate with your daughter’s navy dress. You could also wear purple, or a fall green.
- Next step is to go out and tell sales people what you are looking for.
- You can check online and print out any photos of dresses that you think might work. Once you arrive at the stores, show these photos to the sales person and have them help you find a few to try on that are similar.
- Because you are petite, sizes might be limited. Don’t rule out buying a dress in a regular size and then have it altered.
I have a helpful e-book called: Tweak Your Chic: Tips and Tricks to Looking Fab as the Mother of the Bride or Groom that explains all this in much more detail. It will give you a step by step guide on what you need to do to find the perfect dress, gown or suit no matter what your size.
Pick up a copy of this wonderful e-book.