We had an idea the other day as to why so many women are having problems developing their over 40 style.
It could be as simple as “been there, done that”
If you’ve reached midlife you’ve been shopping and enjoying fashion for a long time now and it may seem like there’s really nothing new. As a result it is easy to get stuck in old ways.
JoJami and I were talking about some of the negative things women say to themselves when they shop..
things like…
Oh, it’s teal green, I wore that years ago and look terrible in it.
Oh, jumpsuits – wore them in the 80′s
Oh, that will show off my 40+ veiny legs
Oh, these pants will make my menopausal stomach look big
These remind me of something I wore when I was in my 30′s
The problem is you become so nit picky and critical after 40 that you pare your choices down to nothing. You leave the store without buying a thing, and you run the risk of falling into a style rut.
It’s that old lady JELLO syndrome- ever noticed how old people become so LIMITED in their food choices. They like the same foods over and over- no variety. Meals become routine and they end up eating bland fare like toast and tea, mashed potatoes, deviled eggs and JELLO.
Maybe your wardrobe is starting to look like JELLO???
Don’t shut down your style by being closed minded to what’s out there in in fashion. Take a deep breath and start fresh, as though you’ve never shopped before. Be positive.
Open your eyes, get excited about dressing again. You don’t need to experiment like a teenager, wearing crazy trendy things, but you do need to take a fresh look if you want to stay modern, hip and fashionable after 40.
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Hi,
I enjoy your blog very much. I can’t believe I’m 55!! Getting older has suddenly hit me. I am starting to feel better after menopause and am trying to get back into better shape. However, I feel so dowdy and unsexy. High heels and skirts are so uncomfortable to wear. Help!! I would like to feel and look sexier, without being ridiculous (like so many women I see).
Best,
Maggie
Hi Maggie,
Thanks so much for your question! You’ve left us scratching are heads and wondering…wow, how did we get this age so quickly!!!
We’re interested in your comment that,” skirts and heels are so uncomfortable. ”
Please tell us more about your self so we can help you. What is your lifestyle like these days? What activities do you need clothes for?
We personally LOVE our skirts and heels and find they are very festive and fun to wear on the right occasion! However, if we are doing activities where we need to be more casual and comfortable there are TONS of options of what to wear.
Here are some tips:
1. If you want style and comfort, go for fabrics that are soft and flowy.
(like this comfy dress from Velvet.) Wear this with a pair of leggings and we promise, you will look and feel comfy and stylish.
2. Make sure the outfit fits your body
3. Shoes can make or break an outfit. If you can’t wear heels, but have long legs and are lucky enough to be tall, you can pull of flats . But, if you are short and heels are not an option, then you will really have to get creative to look stylish. Its all about balance. Don’t try to wear a knee length skirt with flats. Its will just look dumpy.
Instead, go for flowy trousers, and a fitted top and jacket. A great sleek fitted workout pant and jacket from Bebe Sport, can look great with the right shoes.
4. Show your creative side, in the accessories you choose.
5. For more ideas get our Glam Plan eBook – 12 steps from Frumpy to Fabulous!
Hope this is helpful!!
Warmest Regards,
The Glam Gals
The problem is you become so nit picky and critical after 40 that you pare your choices down to nothing. You leave the store without buying a thing, and you run the risk of falling into a style rut.
