Trend Alert! Gray Hair is All the Rage!

lady Gaga gray hairWas it Lady GaGa , Tiva or Kate Moss, who started the recent trend that grey hair is cool? No matter who it was I’m seeing many young and not so young  going grey and getting lots of attention!

Kristen McMenamy sporty long grey locks.- Vogue, 2010

For instance, I was just reading over at French Essence that 46-year-old model Kristen McMenamy is hot as ever and she has dared to go au natural!  She’s a beautiful woman and looks fab!

How do you pull off grey hair and still look youthful and cool?

  • Your make up must be subtle
  • Your wardrobe should be updated and classy. Love Kristen’s  simple elegant style with a twist (That coat is crazy with the slit elbow and she is owning that hat!!!)
  • Make sure your hair is in a style that is current.
  • It’s all in your attitude! If you feel great you will look great!

Do you like her look?

Let me know and comment below!



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  1. I got my first grey hair at age 19! Dyed my hair (my natural color is dark brown) for about 10 years until I made a decision to embrace my grey and stop putting all those chemicals into my body. I’m now 60 and about 85% grey and I love it! I have beautiful, thick, shiny hair and have been getting complements for years. I have an awesome hairstylist who puts up with my going from very short to very long and back again. I just tell her the length I want and she styles my hair to suit my face. The only person who doesn’t like my grey is my 86-year-old mother, who still dyes her hair blond.

  2. Hi All, I am 63 yrs old and have had grey hair for nearly 30 years and long hair for close to 20 years. I have relatively unlined skin, I am fit and not overweight, wear fashionable clothes, so I do not look older than I am. I love my hair, so easy to manage. I just wash, towel dry and put it up. I trim it myself every 6 weeks or so. No cost, no chemicals, minimum maintenance and I frequently receive compliments. I do have frizzy hair and have recently discovered that conditioner applied on dry hair between washes is better than any other product that I have previously used. Now my hair is smoother than it has ever been and even less cost as I don;t need the various products to remove frizz. I am really comfortable in my own skin. If you have grey hair, embrace it with confidence and do not let the billion dollar beauty industry dictate to you.

  3. I’m going to be turning 40 this year and i chopped off my hair just before christmas(3 inches). i had long dark brown hair previously(bottle). apparently i’m one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have patchy white hair, my hair is whiter in front and gradually fades to black in the back. my only problem seems to be a hair style to suit now. I was told i still have the curve of a young woman, and i have great courage, as i hold myself proud. i just have to learn to find what suits my hair coloring and makeup to bring out my other features. it was kinda funny to have people stop in there tracks cause i looked so familiar but they couldn’t wrap their minds around my white hair. now most people are use to my natural hair color…………… i’m the one who has to learn to maintain (i didn’t know products can give your hair a funny tint) i am under the process of what works best for me, and enjoying the money i save. i actually had my natural hair and going grey before i turned 30. i tried red hair dye for halloween a few years ago and didn’t realize that temp stuff DOESN”T wash out of grey :( i couldn’t figure out how to fix it, so i kept dying it. i guess we learn somehow. its the growing out i hate, but think its nice having the grey and noone has given me negative feedback

  4. I am 50 years old. I stopped dying my hair 9 months ago and am half-salt, half-pepper. I am also growing it longer, and it is nearly to my breasts. I have become fed up with the world telling me that I am an ogre because I won’t bow to norms other people born before I was started. I also can’t stand the thought of sporting dyed hair with an aging face 15 years from now. If you need proof I am not the only one with this opinion, perform a net search like “enjoying grey hair” and you will find forums with people on it of the same opinion. I plan on starting a small business that is not office-based, and my husband teed me off with the routine, “I have read that it makes a better impression if . . .” The impression I will give people is my warmth, confidence, experience and compassion.

  5. Hi All,

    I have to disagree with some of the comments that says – gray hair has an automatic aging effect on a woman. I don’t think so because I’ve seen a lot of women on my internet searches that this is not so. I saw samples of many regular women (not celebrities) who embraced their gray and look fabulous. I think attitude counts because if you’re unhappy or even ambivalent about embracing gray, it shows outwardly. One has to have a very good cut, make-up and wardrobe that are youthful, and at the same time age-appropriate (no extremes or trying too hard to look young because that is going to show and will have the opposite effect).

    I embraced my gray recently. The compliments I got were amazing I couldn’t believe it, and included in that was I now look years younger than when I colored my hair – kind of paradoxical, but true. I got a nice youthful haircut, updated my wardrobe, wear silver jewelries and subtle make up. I feel younger and authentic. I’m 58. What I just did is counter-culture because everybody in our community, or at least, almost every women, including those in their seventies, eighties, nineties still color their hair. But I’m proud of my silver hair. And even men give me compliments on my silver hair now. I didn’t get these kind of positive feedback when I was coloring my hair for more than two decades.

    So Ladies, don’t be disheartened. Gray doesn’t mean “Old”. If you believe that gray equates old-look, then that becomes your reality – it’s mind over matter. Choose to believe that gray will make you look marvelous, and it becomes true!!! Believe me.

    • Hi Ces,
      I’m thrilled to hear that you have “embraced your gray”! I’m really are in agreement with you. When debating fashion trends, so much of it does depend on your state of mind, attitude and of course good grooming/updating.

      Nothing is one size fits all. Personally, It wouldn’t be for me.

      Thanks for sending out a word of encouragement to those woman who might be on the fence. No matter what, the fun thing is you can try it, you just might like it!

  6. I have had white hair all my life starting with a small patch in the back of my head when I was small. The white in the front started when I was a teenager, so I plucked out the hairs; that only worked for a while. Eventually, I had more white hair than one of my grandmothers. I just lived with it, and it did not bother me.

    Now, at my age, I just make sure that I have a terrific haircut, keep the white shimmering, and wear up-dated clothes. I get stopped in the street by people asking where I get my hair done. My stylist rocks!

  7. I echo the other readers’ statements that going gray is an individual thing. I am a Black woman, and I have gotten tons of compliments on my salt and pepper hair. It is getting saltier every month! I was blond for several years-think Mary J. Blige or Jade in “The Next Top Model”-and the chemicals were not friendly to my hair at all. I did the blond move because I was going gray…

    I am 48 years old. Black skin tends to not show lines, and as an extra boost I use a prescription Retin-A cream to stay fierce and flawless. The same shampoo that took the brassiness out of my blond also keeps my light strands a sparkling silver (my daughter calls it “tinsel”), although I have heard that a drop of blueing, like is used for laundry, in a gallon of water works well. I like cutting edge fashion, and have started wearing a lot of unique silver jewelry. Young looking skin and dressing well go a long way in terms of making gray hair fabulous. So, I am looking forward to going gracefully gray and am loving to compliments!

  8. Mary Ellen says:

    I am 55 years old and tried going gray for about a year and a half. I thought I liked it, because my hair is so white around my face. But then, I kept taking really good, hard looks at myself in different types of lighting and began to realize that my hair was making me look really old. I had also let my hair grow almost to my shoulders. I cut my hair, first, and that helped a bit. Then, when I died my hair blond, boy did I get the complements. Everyone says I look 10 years younger; so I don’t think I’ll go back to gray. I think gray can look fine on someone with a tiny body who can dress very hip; but for most of us, that isn’t the reality.

  9. magdalene says:

    It’s always interesting to me, whenever these “gray is cool” articles surface (as they do occasionally), that the accompanying photos are of line-free faces sporting monochromistically gray hair. This, for most of us, is not representative of real life! Usually hair goes gray in patches, with the non-graying parts fading to something less glorious than the former shade. Add to this a complexion that is also changing in texture and color.

    Aging gracefully thus may be fine for some, but for those of us in the corporate world, or other occupational arenas that seem to demand competition and looking well-groomed (and, lets face it, are agist), it’s not a viable option!

    I also don’t want to cut all my hair off to gray roots, or suffer a year of skunkdom. Perhaps on a desert island…

  10. Well I turn 53 this month (groan) and have been dealing with grey hair since I was in my mid thirties. The root problem seems to get worse each month and the cost is outrageous. I have long hair, thick and wavy and can quite easily colour 2cm of roots every month. I am not ready to give up and go grey, I agree with the previous comments about age, I am sute I would look just great at 23 or even 33 with grey hair but not now. And then there’s the hubby!! He of course is grey and isn’t that just fine for guys, as always double standards? However I do have a tip to share. I recently started using Clairol Root Touch-Up, very inexpensive and I can now miss a month or two if I wish and go to the salon to have the cut and highlights done. And just as a post script, what helped with my look … losing 20lbs this summer!

  11. I just had to agree with Janine. I am 51 and I also thought (when in my 20’s) that I would age gracefully and let my hair go gray. Little did I realize that gray hair can really age some. A women that I attend church with has shoulder length gray and white extremely thick shoulder length hair and her eye brows are natural looking (think Ali McGraw) and dark. She looks amazing – I do not know her age just that she is retired and a grandmother. She wears lots of vibrant colors and she does not move like an old woman….by that I mean, she gets up from her seat in one fell swoop, she does not wince from pain when she moves and it appears she has whitened her teeth or she has amazing looking false teeth…

  12. Deb,I mean, call me crazy, but Kristen McMenamy does not look 46 in that picture. She looks closer to 60. The hair is beautiful on its own, but adds years.

  13. No policing noted, Deborah. You always have a timely and fabulous blog.

  14. I think it is good to remember that gray is a color, just like any hair color women choose, and varies widely among women, as do their reasons for coloring or not coloring. It should always be an individual choice, however, rather than an expected conformity.

    Some women have a severe allergy to a component of hair dye and cannot dye their hair. Some women realize they do not like dying their hair repeatedly every couple of weeks or worry about the effects of dark hair dyes on their health. Some simply have husbands that love their gray hair and consider it quite beautiful:-). As I live in the Pacific Northwest (in the U.S.) it may be more accepted to either dye or not dye your hair here than elsewhere, due to the emphasis on health and everything natural.

    Remember that managing your appearance well after going gray is different than before and the women who do not do anything towards their appearance at all of course will always be a part of the gray you see out there.

    Having said that, if you want to continue to look 23 at 43 or at 63, then you probably should dye your hair. Gray hair may look great on you, it may be healthy and authentic, but it doesn’t usually make you look like you are in your 20’s. If younger is your goal, or you are in love with a particular hair color other than what you have, then you should make the personal choice to color your hair. I do think this is an area where it is important to remember not project our own reasons for our choices onto others as their reasons and individual results may vary.

    • Hi PJ,
      Not trying to be the “fashion Police”.
      I simply give my opinion, then explain why I feel that way and then let my readers take it or leave it. On this issue of going gray, I think some women look fantastic in it, but that it can be aging on most.

  15. I wish it were that simple. Unfortunately, even though gray hair is theoretically a subversive and hip look, it adds 10-20 years to anyone’s apparent age. A 50-year-old woman with all-gray hair will look 65, and as soon as she dyes her hair non-gray she’ll look 50 or even 40 again. My grandma always dyed her hair, and one day at 70-ish she stopped dying it and as soon as the dye job was grown out she looked like her own mother. Literally like she had one foot in the grave. Pretty much the same thing with my mother when she was early-40’s. Stopped dying her hair, gained 10 years in appearance.

    The only way to pull off gray and still look cool and young is to be Lady Gaga’s age, because it’s obvious it’s fake and not due to aging, since the face is 20-something.

    This is sad to me because I really wanted to age gracefully with natural gray hair, and I got my first gray strand earlier this year. But I’ve seen how it ages women. I don’t think I’ll be doing that.

  16. I think Helen Mirren looks gorgeous with her grey locks, nothing remotely frumpy about her!

  17. begoodbabe says:

    I dyed my hair for the last time the day before my 44th Birthday. For some reason I thought that I would let my silver shine after I turned 50, but when I asked myself if I wanted to be ruled by my roots for the next 6 years I quickly decided that the answer was NO! I hated feeling self conscious about my roots and living my life around my coloring calendar. The mess, the smell, the expense, the unhealthy chemicals; I was finished with it. I found a great website that I went to several times a week for information and support and have never looked back! I make sure that my hair style is funky, my makeup, clothes, footwear and accessories are flattering and functional and I have found other uses for that money! I got rid of all my brown and cream clothes and added more jewel tones; all tips that I gleaned from goinggraylookinginggreat.com. I love my new freedom and being the best real me that I can be!

  18. Glam Gals– wish I could go blond but I’m Asian American and that would look even more unnatural! Maybe I should shave it and start from scratch…

  19. Grey on older women- politically correct, yes ! I’d love to say “go girl you just rock the age thing” but that’s not the reality for most women or me (51).
    Here’s the conundrum- it looks great on Lady Gaga becuase the rest of her is anti grey – soft skin with rosy color, full natural brows and fat volume in the face. Also look closy at the wisps of hair in both pictures- lady Gaga’s is very smooth. I’m not a fan of the look on the other model. Look at you guys- you have gorgeous color ! Just my opinion. Love your site BTW !

  20. Dear Glam Gals,

    As a going gray gal, just wanted to add that although makeup should be subtle, either dark or pale lips look “off” on me personally. A lipstick that is my natural lip shade but a little brighter and warmer seems to work the best for me. Although the actual color of gray hair varies widely among women, if you go gray you do need to re-evaluate what colors you are wearing. Some colors may actually look better than they used to and some, such as creams or tans especially, may not be flattering anymore.

  21. Wow! Grey hair….all the rage..and to think I’ve been covering it up since I was 16. I am now 42..not sure how grey I really am, but I’d say if it really does become a trend I’ll be saving a lot of money!

  22. Gray looks great on some people…better than rocking black hair with a face full of wrinkles (Rose Kennedy). One important part of having gray hair I think is to keep it gray…keep the yellow out! Use a shampoo and conditioner that is made for gray hair.

  23. I wish I could go grey but after coloring it so many years, it would be too much work to let it go grey. I’m too vain to go through that weird skunk look. My concern is how unnatural I’ll look when I’m 70– old face, young hair.

    • Hi Janet,
      My mother (JoJami’s) had dark brown here most of her life…as she finally reached her late 60’s dying it to matach was just looking a little harsh. Her solution was to go blond and she is 74 and looking great and loves it!

  24. I think your complexion…and the color of the grey is important. I’m afraid my hair is battleship grey and with my complexion…that does NOT work! I am dark blond so my roots don’t show that much! I love color on my hair! Grey looks great on some people..but not me! lol ♥