Forget psychotherapy, Transcendental Meditation, or any other practice designed to give us insight into our hearts and souls and minds. The clues to a woman’s psyche are hanging inside her closet.
Here’s what I mean, and it has happened to all of us. You go out shopping and buy something absolutely wonderful, then you hang it in your closet and you never, ever wear it.
It’s left sitting there price tag and all waiting, waiting until one day it finally goes out of style and you end up giving it away.
Why do we SAVE our clothes instead of wearing and enjoying them? There are lots of crazy reasons:
We Buy Clothes for the Life we Want, Not the Life we Have
Have you ever fallen in love with an edgy and expensive pair of sky-high, studded boots that speak to your inner rocker chick and you just have to have them? But when you get them home, you realize that your corporate job affords very few if any opportunities to wear your beloved boots. You are buying for the dream instead of the reality.
It takes a lot of discipline to buy clothes you really need, instead of fantasy clothes that hang in your closet like pieces of art. Just knowing you why you are buying these clothes in the first place makes it easier to break this costly habit.
We are Waiting to Lose 10 pounds
Be honest, do you have a pair of pants sitting in your closet that are a little (or a lot) too tight but you keep holding on to them until some unspecified day in the future when you’ll be able to fit into them? Have you convinced yourself they will look perfect soon, once you finally get rid of that tummy bulge?
We’ve all been there, particularly as we age and it gets too darn easy for the pounds to add up. But ladies, let’s be honest with ourselves, that “someday” when you lose weight may be a long way – maybe a long, long way – off. Life is too short to wait for “someday”. Instead of saving clothes for something that may or may not ever happen, let’s embrace who we are today, take a deep breath and toss what doesn’t fit.
We feel Guilty for buying clothes
There are also darker reasons some of us don’t wear what we buy. Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner author of, You Are What You Wear: What Your Clothes Reveal About You, suggests that some women who are compulsive spenders buy clothes, feel guilty, and don’t wear them as a form of self-punishment. Then there’s the saddest reason of all, you feel you are getting older and you don’t feel you are pretty enough or youthful enough to wear beautiful things. If this rings a bell with you, I’m here to tell you that you do deserve to look and feel fantastic and that you truly can be fabulous after 40 or 50 or at any age.
We Dont Want to Muck Up Our Special Clothes
A final reason we save clothes reminds me of the same excuse we use when it comes to never using our china dishes or best silverware; they’re so pretty that we don’t want to muck them up. Instead, we go around wearing (or using) the same old boring clothes every day, waiting for a special occasion to put on something pretty.
If you can relate and have been saving your nice clothes out of habit or fear of mucking them up, I say it’s time to break that habit. Train yourself to live in beauty every day. Eat off your best china, buy flowers and have them around the house, and wear your lovely clothes. Style is not about the way you dress, it’s about the way you live.
Do you have clothes in your closet that you are saving? Then I challenge you to live in the moment and wear them. Send me a photo of yourself wearing something you have been saving and I will post it.