Does This Hairstyle Date The Mother of the Groom?

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Does Kim’s hairstyle date her?

Of all the times you want to look fab, the day of your son’s wedding is one of them. As mother of the groom you want to find the perfect dress, shoes, jewelry and of course the perfect hairstyle too.

Here’s an email I got from one of my readers, Kim, who wanted to know how to look modern and pretty on this special day.

Fabulous After 40 hair expert Chris Maclachlan  has some great suggestions for her.

Dear Chris,

My son is getting married soon, and of course I want to look my best for the occasion.

I’ve had this hairstyle for about 5 years. Before that, the length went up and down, but other than that, it pretty much stayed the same style for about 10 – 15 yrs.

I’d like to know if this hairstyle still looks okay, or should I change it?  Does it age me?

Here are a couple of things you probably should know.  I have very thick, dry, coarse hair. I don’t like using styling products other than hair spray.

Thank you and Blessings, Kim

Kate Capshaw
This hairstyle with long layers is more modern.

Hi Kim,

Congratulations on your son’s marriage!

My first thought is that your hairstyle is a bit dated.  The reason being, the short layers on the top, the whispy short bangs and the feathery-ness on the sides.

I would try to grow the top out, make the bangs heavier and bring the overall length up a little like in this photo of Kate Capshaw.

You have a nice long neck, I like your color, and thick hair is always an asset even though it requires a bit of work.  I know you said you don’t like products, but I would add  a smoothing cream (not mousse or gel.)  Aveda Hang Strait or Redken Align are both great and really lightweight.

Apply a little before you blow-dry  and you can also use a touch to smooth it after its dry. I would bring the length up, and try to grow the top out to a style like this.

Hair grows and average of half an inch a month so I think you will be looking at about 6 months or so to get the top long enough.

The best way to grow your hair out is simple.  Stop cutting it !!!

I can’t tell you how many of my clients I have sent home with just a blow-dry and this advice.  Obviously you can’t not cut it at all, but try to go as long as you can between trims and make sure you have a hairstylist you trust and who understands what your goals are.

Have fun at the wedding! I’m sure you will make a beautiful mother of the groom!

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Do you have a wedding coming up? What are you planning to wear? If you need a little help deciding on which mother of the bride dresses (or mother of the groom dresses) might be best for you, be sure to check out my bestselling book Tweak Your Chic – Mother of the Bride. It will tell you everything you need to know on one of the most important and cherished days of your life.

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