I love wearing heels, but after I left my job as a television producer and began working in a home office, I found I was wearing them less and less. I miss wearing heels – they make me feel sexy and confident and attractive – so lately I’ve been trying to wear them more and more.
Funny enough, I feel like a little kid learning to walk again, and that’s made me realize how easy it is to slip into a style rut.
I have a friend who, because of a health issue, had to stop wearing makeup for a time. Fair enough but when her health improved, because she was out of the habit of wearing makeup, she didn’t bother starting to use it again.
Putting on foundation or blush just felt like too much work. If she were happy with that, there wouldn’t have been any problem, but she told me that when she looked in the mirror, she felt old and drab. She convinced herself that others saw her that way too and she began to feel uncomfortable in social situations.
Things finally turned around when, on a whim, she had a mini-makeover at a department store cosmetic counter. She loved the results but not only that; she realized she had given up. She decided right then and there to put in the effort to improve her grooming.
No one ever decides to consciously get into a rut or let themselves go, but the truth is that it’s a slippery slope. It starts with little things, like not bothering to change out of your “uniform” of yoga pants and a t-shirt when you run out to get groceries, going too long between haircuts and coloring because you just don’t have the time for a trip to the hairdresser, or not getting enough rest or exercise because between work, kids, and your aging parents, there’s just no time.
I get it, as women we have a ton of expectations placed on us at this stage of life, but I think it’s sad that in all of that, we’re the ones who tend to come last.
Some of you might think this is nonsense, that there are more important things in life to devote our time to than always trying to look pulled together. Or maybe you think it doesn’t matter, that at our age we’ve earned the right not to have to try hard or worse, that no one is looking at us anyway.
While I do agree that we midlife women have bigger things on our plates than our appearance, I also know for a fact that all of us, regardless of our age, feel better overall when we respect ourselves enough to take some time for ourselves.
What do you think? Do we let ourselves go as we get older? Have any of you fallen down that slippery slope? Have you managed to pull yourself back up? And if so, how did you do it? I’d love to hear your story. Comment below.
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