7 Sizzling Summer Party Dresses for Women Who Love Maxis !

Break out the margaritas and put on the shish-kabobs, it’s time for a summer celebration! What will you be wearing this weekend to the backyard bbq or neighborhood pool party? Pants can be heavy, and shorts may not feel right, but a maxi dress is sure to wow. Here’s what to wear to look sizzling and summery.


Sizzling with a Dash of Sexiness

When you want to show some skin, this dress is the one you’ll reach for. With a plunging neckline and thigh high slit, this beautiful printed maxi dress reveals your best parts.


Bold Prints are Beautiful in the Backyard

Things can get pretty hot, hot, hot at a summer party, so why not fiesta and party in this stunning green and white foliage print, twist front maxi? The twist front serves as a focal point and helps to highlight or create a sexy hourglass shape.


Boho and Breezy Is Always Better in the Summer

Set your boho spirit free in this breezy cotton maxi that has an abstract bandana print, a low scoop back with a flouncy ruffled hem. This is a playful option for warm weekends and beach trips when paired with a chunky sandal.


Lovely in Long Sleeves

This bold tropical print maxi dress has has what many women are looking for – long sleeves.

I love the vibrant pops of exotic orange, blue, and green that make you definitely look twice. Blouson sleeves give you coverage when you don’t want to expose your arms, and a self-tie waist gives you a nice shape. This is such a pretty dress when you want to make a statement on a hot summer evening.


This Dress is in the Top Tier

The perfect summer maxi is loose and airy and will keep you comfortable when the temperatures rise. This flowy tiered maxi dress is a versatile day-to-night dress that keeps you cool no matter how high the temps sour. Toss on a denim jacket and a pair of flip flops for a casual look or a blazer and wedge heels for a dressy vibe.




Silky for Summer

This silky smooth stretch-silk maxi dress has a subtle flouncy ruffled hem that adds to its overall appeal. And the lightweight silk has the addition of spandex to keep you comfortable for all-day wear.


Halter Neckline Shows Off Your Shoulders

Can you say ‘show stopper’? This gorgeous, chiffon floral print maxi with the sexy halter neckline is sure to turn heads. Lightweight and flowy, you’ll look hot but feel cool all at the same time. All you need are a pair of pretty low-heel sandals, and you are all set.

Puff Sleeves Are Trendy

This romantic maxi dress with a smocked, puff-sleeve bodice and a flowing, tiered skirt has retro vibes with a very modern update. I’m seeing this style of dress everywhere this season, and it’s been very popular with women over 40.


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Slimming, Elegant Plus Size Mother Of The Bride Dresses

Dear Deborah,

My daughter is getting married, and I’d like to lose a few pounds before the big day, but realistically I will never be skinny. Can you suggest some slimming, elegant plus size Mother of the Bride dresses that will make me look fabulous? Thanks, June

Hi June

I’m so glad you aren’t setting unrealistic goals that you must achieve before the big day.  Many women wait until the last minute to get a mother of the bride or mother of the groom dress, thinking they will lose a lot of weight, but they never do.  As a result, they’re lucky to find any dress that fits, let alone one that they like. The best thing to do is accept the weight you are and order your dress ahead of time. If you do drop a few pounds, then have your dress taken in. It doesn’t matter what you weigh. So long as you choose a style that works with your body, you will look gorgeous in your dress.

Here are some beautiful options.

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What To Wear To A Wedding Reception Over 40

The wedding invitation has arrived. Now the big question is, “What will I wear?”

Naturally, it’s all about the bride on her wedding day, but that doesn’t mean that you, as a guest, shouldn’t look fabulous, too.  There aren’t very many occasions to dress up these days, so if you’re going to a wedding, seize the chance to wear something unique and shine.

Here are some things to think about when trying to find the right dress.

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1. Wear Something Special

Our is a very casual world, but a wedding a very important event. A lot of time and effort has gone into planning to make everything beautiful, so it’s important you recognize the need to dress up. Don’t think you can just throw on a nice work dress and be done with it. You’ll want to something dressier and more glamorous.

Follow the dress code on the wedding invitation, and don’t be afraid to ask if there isn’t one written. At a wedding, it is better to be overdressed than underdressed!

Wedding guest Dress- gold floral

2. Consider the Venue and Time of Day

What to wear to a wedding reception depends on many things, including where the wedding is being held and when.  A beach wedding taking place at 1 pm will be far more casual than a church wedding at 4 pm, followed by a country club reception at 6 pm. Regardless of the time or place, all wedding receptions require a certain degree of decorum.

Women have more flexibility when it comes to dressing for a wedding reception than men. At some weddings, even a skirt and blouse or dressy evening pants worn with a dressy top are acceptable options.

A dressy jumpsuit can be appropriate too. However, for the majority of weddings, a dress is a perfect choice.

3. Avoid Wearing White

While there are no formal rules, it’s common sense to forgo wearing a white dress. White should be reserved for the bride. Even if the bride is not wearing white, white makes one think of a bride, so stay clear out of respect. If you prefer a lighter color, opt for a pretty pastel like this one in blush pink.

Wedding guest dress - Navy Lace

4. Don’t Reveal Too Much Skin

The length of your dress matters.  A ladylike length would be no shorter than about an inch or two above the knee.  Also, avoid low-cut dresses or dresses that are too loud, bright, or busy. You want to stand out, but not in a negative way. You’re not going to a nightclub. A great way for an over-40 gal to show a little skin but not look trashy is to opt for an off-the-shoulder dress or dress with some sheer fabric. It’s subtly sexy, but still looks classy.

5. Slip-On some Dressy Shoes

Chunky, heavy, serious business shoes aren’t dressy enough for a wedding. Your shoes should be delicate, dressier, and a little sexy too. For example, metallic heels add a touch of glam. You’ll want to hit the dance floor, so be sure you can move comfortably in whatever shoes you choose.

Lace Dress

6. Wear Elegant Jewelry

A wedding is the perfect time to bring out your fine jewelry. A gold bangle and pair of gold and pearl dangle earring are the perfect complement to your dress and shoes. Keep earrings to a reasonable length- no more than 2″ below your earlobe would make sense.

7. Carry an Evening Bag

Leave your heavy, everyday bag at home and opt for something more evening-like. A clutch or small chain handbag is a perfect choice for the occasion.

8. Don’t Forget a Wrap

You will likely need something to cover your arms because many cocktail dresses are sleeveless. A wrap will come in handy at the church, in an air-conditioned reception hall, or on a patio if the reception is outside. Make sure your wrap is delicate and ladylike.

Here are some more wedding guest dresses in stores now.

Did you look fabulous recently at a wedding or semi-formal party? Send me a photo. I would love to post it.


Glamorous Velvet Cocktail Dresses: 5 Favorites for Holiday Parties

Nothing says holiday party like a glamorous cocktail dress.  Here are the 5 classic favorites to look fab and festive.

1.  Red Velvet Cocktail Dresses


When red is the color of Santa’s velvet suit, it no wonders that red velvet cocktail dresses are the first ones to get snapped up. But bright Christmas red isn’t always the most popular shade.  It’s hot and sexy on young women, but many mature women prefer a quieter, more elegant version of red and lean towards wine or burgundy.

For example, a gorgeous wine-colored velvet dress is very flattering at any age. This toned-down red is easy to wear, and the beautiful wrap style is a great way to show off your waist. Three quarter length sleeves help give you a more youthful look, and the just above the knee length is super flattering.

Wine Colored Velvet Cocktail Dress | option 2  

2. Green Velvet Cocktail Dress


Christmas Tree Green is the other obvious for a velvet dress this time of year. This gorgeous green velvet midi dress is particularly regal. Midis have become very popular lately, and they look lovely on, so long as you wear some heel; otherwise, they can look rather frumpy.

This pretty cocktail dress is an all-around winner with a charming twisted bodice and soft, flowy skirt that’s especially flattering if you have full hips and heavy bottom half. (pear-shaped).

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3.  Velvet Cocktail Dresses with Sleeves


Velvet dresses are pretty seasonal and more suited to fall and winter, so you’d think that they would all come with sleeves. But that’s not always the case. Cocktail dresses with sleeves are always in demand, so if you find one you like, scoop it up quick.

Long velvet sleeves can sometimes be hot and weigh down the look.  If it’s your wobbly arms you are concerned about, you can get the coverage you need and look more youthful if you pick a velvet dress with a sheer sleeve, a bell sleeve, a 3/4 length sleeve, or an elbow-length sleeve.

Black Velvet Dress with Sheer Sleeves, option 2option 3  |  option 4  | option 5

4. Black Velvet Cocktail Dresses


When you want to play it safe, there’s always black. Not only are black velvet evening dresses slimming, but they’re also versatile because you can wear them to many other events and not look Christmasy.  One of my favorite looks is a dress with black velvet flocking. Flocking adds texture and dimension and looks so pretty and feminine on this style of dress.

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5. Blue Velvet Cocktail Dresses


Blue Velvet cocktail dresses are a little harder to find but well worth it if you can nab one. This color feels rare and special, and while just as slimming as black can be softer on the complexion when you are in midlife or beyond.

A tailored sheath like this is classically elegant, and in deep blue velvet, it takes on a magical feel. Angular seams add shape and definition and show off your curves. Here’s the blue velvet cocktail dress I wore at Christmas.

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What to Wear to a Summer Wedding -10 Common Questions

Is the summer wedding you thought was canceled, now going forward? If you held off on buying your wedding guest dress until now, and you’re wondering what to wear, no worries! Here’s what to wear to any summer wedding, even when it’s been scaled-down, and you’re celebrating with social distancing guidelines in place!

1.  What to Wear to a Daytime Wedding in Summer

Cocktail Dresses - Floral

The mood of a daytime wedding is light, fresh, and cheery, and so wear a pretty dress in a bright color of the season. A Floral print dress is ideal and should be very easy to find. Accessorize your dress with some cute heels, a great clutch, and if you are daring enough, a hat. How often do you get to go to a wedding? Have fun and dress up.

2.  Can You Wear White to a Wedding?

Sorry, that old rule of no white at weddings still stands because you never want to upstage the bride. The only time it is acceptable is to wear a tiny bit of white as a detail on a dress or within a pattern of a dress- but we’re talking small. Cream or beige is o.k. Unless you know, the bride is wearing cream.

3.  Can You Wear Black to a Wedding?

Cocktail Dresses - Black

A black cocktail dress is too heavy for a daytime wedding but is very appropriate for an evening wedding.  If you want to wear black by day,  then you could try a black floral dress, which is mainly bright colored flowers on a dark background ( i.e., black or navy). This gives black a much more daytime feel. Just make sure it’s more floral than black.

4.  What To Wear to a Garden Wedding?

There’s a lot of garden weddings this summer, which is a lovely thing. Some are more formal, some are very casual, but what they all have in common are a light and cheery natural vibe. Florals, feminine prints are perfect, along with soft shapes and flowy fabrics. Choose cheerful light colors like the colors of the garden, and you will blend right in.

5.  What To Wear to a Beach Wedding?

yellow floral high low maxi dress to wear to a wedding reception over 40 styled by Fabulous After 40

Beach weddings are fun and exciting and the perfect time to wear anything from a pretty sundress to a chic summery cocktail dress. A chiffon maxi is light and breezy and fits right in with the sun and sand setting. The high low hemline is playful and summery too!

6.  What to Wear to a Winery Wedding?

Cocktail Dresses - Blue

Winery weddings can range from boho to glam, but they always have an air of sophistication.  Why not toast the bride and groom with a glass of champagne in this gorgeous blue sheath with the twist tie neckline that is both modern and chic.  Add sexy heels and a glamorous clutch and party on.

7.  Can You Wear a Jumpsuit to a Wedding?

Yes, absolutely! If your legs are not your best asset or dresses are just not your thing, and then pants are an excellent choice. However, I’m not talking about any old pair of slacks and a top. To look more elegant, wear a solid color pantsuit or a beautiful blouse and Palazzo pants, which are flowy and feminine, almost like a dress.

A dressy jumpsuit can also work for daytime weddings. Be sure to choose fabrics that are relaxed and a little more luxurious than what you’d wear every day.

8. Maxi Dresses are Summery. – Can I wear a Maxi Dress to a Summer Wedding?

Yes, a breezy maxi dress is perfect for a spring or summer wedding, but make sure it is not too casual or too revealing. Check out my post on appropriate maxi dresses for weddings.

9.  What to Wear To an Evening Wedding?

Easy Answer – Unless the evening wedding is very formal and calls for a long gown, a cocktail dress is perfect! Just make sure it is not too flashy, short, or revealing.  You don’t want to look like you should be out clubbing. For example, a tight-fitting red satin dress with sequins and a plunging neckline is too showy.

Another option for an evening wedding is to wear a dressy suit or a cocktail suit. Remember, it’s night. You shouldn’t look the slightest bit corporate. No pinstripes, shirts, tweeds, serious suit styles, and heavy materials. You need to wear a fitted suit, not a boxy suit, one that is softer, a little sexy, feminine and luxurious – the type of thing you’d wear if you were going out to a special dinner. Think sophisticated. (A very dressy pantsuit with this same feel would work too.)

10.  What to Wear to a Black Tie Wedding?

A black-tie wedding is most formal and calls for something very glamorous like you are going to a formal ball. Here’s where a full-length black dress would be your very best choice. However, a black cocktail dress would be acceptable too. If you don’t like black, then a single color dress in a rich color is elegant too. Also, a dress that is simple with clean lines is what’s right for this elegant affair—no fussy details.

Always respect the fact that it will be one of the most special days in the bride’s life. Honor her by putting some effort into what you wear and dressing up for the occasion, but never try to outshine her. It’s her moment to in the spotlight. Make sure she feels like the star.

More ideas for what to wear to a wedding reception over 40 are here, or you can read about bridal shower outfits.



What to Wear to a Bridal Shower As A Guest

Did I tell you about the time I went to a bridal shower for my friend’s daughter? One of the guests was wearing a dress cut so low that when she reached across the buffet table for a cup of tea and an egg salad finger sandwich, out popped her nipple!

That’s no joke and a good example of what not to wear to a bridal shower. A bridal shower is a proper ladylike celebration, and the way you dress should reflect that. It is important to look nice for the bride and yourself, so take the time to dress up.

Here are some guidelines for what to wear to a bridal shower to look lovely and appropriate.

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What to Wear to Casual Bridal Shower

Bridal showers have become more casual over the years, but that doesn’t mean you should show up in boring, everyday clothes. No matter where the shower is held, the dress code for what to wear to a bridal shower calls for something a little special.

In summer, a bridal shower is often held in someone’s backyard, by the garden or pool, so that you could wear a pretty sundress, a maxi dress, pants, a jumpsuit, or even capris and a pretty top.

A casual wedding shower is usually held in someone’s home or at a local community hall in the fall or winter.  In this case, you could wear a casual day dress,  dress pants and a nice sweater or top would be fine.

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What to Wear to a Dressy Bridal Shower

Most of the time, bridal showers are fancier semi-formal gatherings. We’ve all been to those. They’re typically held in someone’s home, a country club, or a chic restaurant. This type of shower calls for a dressier day dress or fancy separates. If the shower is very dressy, then a cocktail dress may be in order.

Regardless of where the bridal shower is taking place and how formal it is, here are some things you should keep in mind when planning a bridal shower guest outfit.

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1. Wear Something Pretty and Feminine

Bridal showers celebrate the bride’s upcoming wedding and have a romantic vibe, so the perfect way to dress is to wear something pretty and feminine like this pretty blue ruffle dress.

Leave your power clothes for work or your sexy evening favorites at home. This is a time for a little softness and sweetness – light fabrics like chiffon dresses, cheery colors, figure-flattering styles, and girly details.

Bridal Shower guest - Blue Polka Dot

2. Pastels & Happy Colors are a Natural Choice

Light soft neutrals and pastels in light, pink, blue, yellow, green, and blush are perfect for a bridal shower.  If these colors make you feel too washed out, then bright, cheery colors work well also.  Stay away from heavy, serious colors like brown, gray, dark navy, dark green, and black. They’re not uplifting enough for a bridal shower.

3. You Can’t Go Wrong in a Dress

When in doubt, wear a dress. It’s the ultimate in femininity and the most popular way to dress for a bridal shower.  Classic styles like the wraps sheaths, shifts, or fit and flare dresses are ideal because they’re on the conservative side.  A pair of cute pants are beautiful, too, but stay away from jeans or cords, which are just too casual to look right.

Bridal Shower Guest outfit- White Floral Tie

4. Florals Fit the Vibe

Beautiful floral prints always look right at a bridal shower, whether you are wearing a floral dress or blouse. Flowers are synonymous with love and romance. Too small of a floral can be aging. Too large can overwhelm a small frame. Look for a medium-size print in a modern color combo.

5. Don’t Underestimate the Power of  Pretty Shoes

A delicate, feminine shoe may be all you need to turn a plain dress you already have in your closet into a Cinderella-like outfit.

6. Don’t  Get Edgy

Bridal showers are not the time or place for edgy black leather, over the knee boots, and studded accessories. These elements are too rough and tough for a genteel wedding shower. Stick to soft, floaty, or drapey fabrics. Silk and jersey, and chiffon are feminine. If you ever wanted to wear lace or ruffles, this is the perfect occasion.

7. Get Jeweled Up

Bring on the bling at a bridal shower. You can wear your fine, expensive things or some fun costume jewelry. It doesn’t matter. A little sparkle adds a lot of glam to a special celebration like this.

Bridal Shower Guest outfit- Lilac Top, white pants styled by Fabulous After 40

8. Pants and a Blouse Can Be Pretty

Some of you don’t like dresses, and pants can be beautiful too, provided they don’t look too casual or too stiff.  The best pants are soft and fluid such as a pair of wider leg or palazzo pants. They give a relaxed but chic vibe. If you decide on black pants ( because we do love our black pants), be sure to go with a feminine top to soften and lighten the entire look. White pants also look fabulous in summer with a lavender top.

Bridal Shower guest outfit- Coral Jumpsuit

9. Think Sweet, Not Sexy

This gets back to my little story at the beginning of this post. Forget plunging necklines and thigh-high skirts. Save those for the cocktail bar. They’re too showy and hard for an afternoon ladies tea party. Of course, you don’t want to look sappy-sweet either, but it’s better to err on this side and not look desperate for attention.

10. Kick Up Your Accessories

Carry a chic clutch, don a silk scarf, or maybe even buy that fancy hat you’ve fantasized about wearing. It’s a party. Have fun.

Final note:

One final note: If you are on the fence about buying something new for a bridal shower, keep this in mind. The same dressy outfit you wear to a bridal shower, you can also wear to a baby shower,  high school reunion, church,  date night, christening, your child’s college graduation, a special birthday party, and more. So go ahead and treat yourself to something fresh and new. When you look good, you feel good, and life is so much more fun.

Do you have other ideas about what is appropriate to wear to a bridal shower? Let me know.


Radiant Red Dresses For Valentine’s Day

If there ever was time to wear red, Valentine’s Day is it (and it is coming up quicker than you think!) Red is a confident color that is associated with passion and sexuality.

In fact, psychologists have found that when women wear red or stand in front of a red background, men find them significantly more attractive and sexually desirable than when they wear or stand in front of different colors.  It works the other way too. Women feel more excited by men wearing red.

Knowing this, it’s no wonder that wearing red on Valentine’s Day is such a popular part of the celebration.  Will you be wearing this hot, sexy color on February 14th?  Below, I have posted a few red Valentine’s dresses that are perfect for your romantic night out. Take a look!


red valentines dress lace dress asymmetrical hem

Red Hot!

Is there anything more iconic than an all-red dress to celebrate Valentine’s Day? This stunning red  lace dress with the asymmetrical hem is the ultimate in femininity, and very modern too. The off-kilter hem feels fresh and fashion-forward, in a very classy way.


Cute red dress for Valentine's Day - red wrap dress with hearts

Wrapped In Love

It’s always sweet to wear hearts on Valentine’s Day, but nobody wants to look tacky doing it. You won’t in this beautiful red and white wrap dress with a subtle heart print that makes you think twice about what you are seeing. This print will look lovely on February 24 and is easy and appropriate to wear again once the holiday is over.

And of course, you can never go wrong with a classic wrap-style which is flattering on everybody, and great to play up your curves.


Red Valentine's Dress

Cupid’s Red

When you want the full Cupid’s red look, but don’t want to spend a lot of time or money to get it, this flare sleeve sheath dress makes it happen. This dress delivers effortless, sophisticated style with its sheer, flowing sleeves and elegant gold chain detail.

Black and red dress for Valentine's Day


Splashes of Red

If your style is more on the quiet side, all red can be scary. In that case, why not try wearing a black dress that has splashes of red? This sleek, sophisticated sheath dress in luxurious black velvet is soft and inviting, while at the same time, the big red roses create lots of excitement. This dress hits that perfect Valentine’s Day color sweet spot.


Red Valentine's dress


Give it a Twirl, Girl!

A dress that moves when you walk is flirty and fun. This sexy, sleeveless dress edged in lace trim has a feminine fit and flare shape that makes you want to twirl!  Add a pair of strappy sandals and some delicate jewelry, and he won’t be able to take his eyes off you.


Nostalgic Florals

If you are a romantic type, with a love of vintage, you’ll love this sweet retro-inspired dress. This pretty, feminine dress combines an empire waist with a silky skirt, cuffs, and the new midi length, which is very popular this spring. A nostalgic floral print and an artsy mix of maroon, red, and pink make this a nice change from your typical all red or all pink Valentine’s Day dress.

cute red dress for Valentine's Day


Desk To Dinner

When you need a dress that takes from day to night without missing a beat, this tie-front flare dress comes to the rescue. This dress has many details that complement, not compete with each other. A flared hem, tie-front detail that adds a feminine twist, a front keyhole, and bell cuffs are just a few of the reasons this dress is a favorite this season.

Shop more red dresses for Valentine’s Day here:

Pretty red dresses for Valentine's Day

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To see more options for Valentine’s Day outfits, and how to style them to look alluring, check out my post on How to Look Sexy On Valentine’s Day without letting it all Hang Out.


Countdown to New Year’s Eve – How to Dress in Looks You’ll Love

Another New Year’s Eve coming up soon, and you are probably wondering, what to wear? If there ever was a time to sparkle and shine, now is it. Here are some tips on how to look fabulous, ringing in the New Year.

NYE Black and Silver Dress

1. Wear A Sophisticated Color

As much you love bright colors, brightly colored evening wear like hot pink or lemon yellow can look loud, harsh, and frankly, not chic, especially at New Years’.  Your best choice for a black-tie party (and the most popular color for New Year’s Eve) is, surprise, black! 

Black is a natural choice because it is elegant, understated, and somewhat mysterious. It also has the bonus of being very slimming.  If all black is too draining, try black dresses with silver or gold touches to bring more life.

Midnight blue or chocolate-brown with a bit of sparkle or shine can also be lovely too. Deep, rich jewel tones like Emerald, Ruby, and Sapphire are festive yet formal and sophisticated.

Gold sparkle top with bell sleeves

2.  Metallics are Perfect

A glittering gold sweater, a cute sequined silver cocktail dress…nothing looks more perfect when you are popping the cork and pouring the champagne than an outfit that sparkles and shines.

Metallics like this are considered neutrals and look sophisticated on their own or mixed with black or white.

Just look at how this stunning bell sleeve gold sweater dresses up simple leggings or black pants. Don’t stop just there, though. For an occasion as festive as New Year’s Eve, pile on the sparkle and shine with a satin pump and glittery gold clutch.

Sparkly Navy Halter Cocktail Dress

3.   Keep it Clean and Simple

How do you wear a very sparkly dress and not look like a hardened Las Vegas showgirl? The key lies in the cut of your dress. Choose a dress that is uncluttered and has clean lines if you want to look sexy and modern. 

Frilly, fussy, busy, is old. Clean, simple, more tailored is modern. Avoid busy details, complicated patterns, and crazy hemlines and necklines just there for shock value.  Less is always more.

Purple cocktail dress with bell sleeves

4.   Don’t Over Dazzle Them

Another way to tackle New Years’ Eve glitz is to wear a dress with small touches of sequins and sparkle that highlight a particular spot. Beading around the neckline, for example, or, like this dress, with a brooch at the waist.

See how the sparkly brooch draws the eye to the model’s narrow waist? Decide what you want to highlight, then sparkle it up.  Bits of sparkle here and there are easier to wear for most women than sparkle from head to toe.

The same goes for jewelry. Too much bling, and you will look like an overdecorated Christmas tree.

5. Don’t go Crazy on Hair and Make-up

Just because New Year’s is the BIG event of the Year doesn’t mean the message here is to have BIG hair. On the contrary, big, puffy, sprayed hair that doesn’t move is dated. (I know you know that, but another shot of hairspray is so tempting, isn’t it?)

Same for makeup. This is not a costume party. Don’t automatically apply your make-up any heavier than you normally do on any other night out on the town. But, smokey eyeliner and false lashes or a bold red lip will give you that extra party punch you are looking for.

Black Sheer Top Black Skinny Jeans

6.   Look Sexy

If you think the definition of sexy is spaghetti straps, deep necklines, short skirts, and showing off showing as much skin as you can, then think again. Over 40 sexy can be as simple as some lace detail or a long-sleeved sheer blouse with a camisole worn underneath for a more modest peek-a-boo effect.

The key is to focus on just one hot spot and play it up. Great legs? Splurge on a decadent pair of high heels. Beautiful bust? Don’t hide it. Make sure to find a top or dress with a tasteful V neckline, and wear a great plumping bra to make sure you are looking perky! By playing up one feature and keeping everything more classic and conservative, you will look sexy in a grown-up way.

New Year’s Eve is one of those rare celebrations when what you choose to wear can really make your end of the year feel like a big “hurrah.”  Go for something special and glam. It’s your time to shine!

As the costume designer, Rosemary Ponzo says, “ Buy the right dress, and the party will come!”

NYE - Black Pants

7. A Little Black Dress Always Works

Sequins, sparkle, and glitter will light up any party and put you in a festive party mood. Something as simple as a black pair of pants and a sparkly top is all you need to look Fabulous at any age.

8. A Splash of Sparkle Rings in New Year’s

It’s new year’s so be sure to go for something that flatters your figure and shows off your shape, even if it’s just a little. This all-out slinky white sequins dress is for the gal who has been working hard all year to look age-amazing and wants to show that off!

For the rest of us, a slim fitting dress in a soft, stretchy fabrics that follows our curves without being tight is alluring and party perfect.

9. The Right Shape is Sexy

When in doubt, an elegant little black dress with some modern embellishment, sexy shoes, and fab evening clutch always works! Ready to break out the champagne?


What To Wear To A Fall Wedding

Summer may be the busiest season for weddings, but Autumn is arguably the prettiest. With the cooler temperatures come falling leaves and the most romantic backdrop for a wedding, ever! I can vouch for that because I was married in October!

Here’s what to wear to a fall wedding to look lovely and appropriate.

Fall Wedding guest dress -Green Metallic

Kay Unger Jacquard Dress


1.  Choose Rich Hues

Spring/summer weddings are all about bright, cheery colors or soft watercolor pastels, but moving into fall, the color story changes. Nature is the best place to find inspiration when you are shopping for fall cocktail dresses for weddings. Dark Green, Gold, Brown, and brick are just a few of the many gorgeous earth tones that are perfect to wear to a fall wedding.

Wedding guest dresses in fall harvest shades like brick, wine, deep blue, teal, pumpkin, wine, eggplant, and black look rich and luxurious.  Also beautiful this time of year – metallics like gold, copper, and silver add depth and warmth.

Black lace Dress by Alex Evenings



2.  Consider a Dress with Sleeves

As the temperature drops, you may want a little more coverage, especially on your arms. This long-sleeved black lace dress is lovely because it camouflages any arm flab but shows off your beautiful forearms which are slimming, elegant and modern.

Fall Wedding guest dress - Plum Velvet

Eliza J Velvet Sheath Cocktail Dress


3.  Embrace Luxe Fabrics

Breezy, light fabrics worked in the summer, but in the fall you’ll look lovely if you embrace rich, luxurious fabrics like lace, taffeta, heavy satins, and brocade. Velvet is always special and looks great in the autumn in a deep seasonal shade. This gorgeous plum velvet dress with sleek wrap waist is one of many fall dresses for weddings that are perfect for women of any age.


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Satin is a luxurious fabric that is trending big this fall and has made its way into party wear. This stunning shiny midi in gorgeous green is a knockout with snake print sandals, green gemstone earrings, and a classy black bag.


What to wear to a fall wedding - Blue

Blue Bell sleeve dress

4.  Take a Wrap

This is the time of year when it can be quite nippy outside, so a lovely wrap comes in handy and is very elegant too. An off the shoulder dress like this blue one is stunning, but you don’t want to be shivering in an over airconditioned church or reception hall, which is sometimes the case.


Fall Wedding Guest dress- Teal

Vince Camuto popover dress Turquoise

Steel gray


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5.  Switch to Fall Shoes

Strappy sandals are favorites for a summer wedding or early September,  but fall brings with it many gorgeous closed-toe pumps or peep-toe pumps that are fine, elegant and lovely for this time of year. You’ll find fall evening shoes in darker hues and luxurious fabrics, including suede and velvet. Of course, metallic and crystal-embellished pumps always work too.

Time flies and the big day will be here before you know it. Deciding what to wear to a fall wedding, and then shopping early on will save you a lot of heartaches.  The wedding invitation goes out 6-8 weeks in advance, so once yours arrives, don’t waste time. There’s nothing worse than being stressed out because you can’t find a dress, or you have to settle because you have run out of time!


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Is It O.K. To Wear a Lace Wedding Guest Dress (and Not Offend the Bride)

Wedding etiquette dictates that it is not polite to wear white to a wedding because you never want to divert attention from the bride. But what about wearing lace?  Most brides have at least some lace on their dress, if not a lot.  Can you wear a lace wedding guest dress and not look like you are trying to steal the bride’s spotlight.

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Lace Wedding Guest Dresses

The answer is yes!  It’s perfectly fine, and quite a popular thing, to wear a lace dress to a wedding if you follow these guidelines:


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1.  Wear Colored Lace

A white or ivory lace dress is a definite no-no, and cream lace is very iffy depending on whether the bride is wearing cream. The best lace dresses to wear to a wedding are those in a distinctly non-bridal color.

In the fall, go for something like this beautiful plum lace dress with the charming halter neckline. The color is deep, rich, and romantic, and cannot be confused with a wedding dress. I’ve paired it with black accessories for a beautiful fall look.

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5 Glam New Year’s Eve Dresses for Gals our Age

Sparkle, glitz and glam. New Year’s Eve is the one night of the year when you can pull out all the stops and have fun dressing like a movie star! Check out these Glam New Year’s Eve Dresses that are flattering over 40.

New Year's Eve Dress -Lavender sequins

1. Sequins are Sensational

Nothing is more festive than sequin dresses on New Year’s Eve, and they’re one type of embellishment that looks fabulous at any age. If you want to show off that figure you have been working so hard on all year, New Year’s Eve dresses with sequins will highlight all your curves.

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How to Accessorize a Black Holiday Party Dress

If you’ve been invited to a holiday get-together and don’t know what to wear,  you can never go wrong with a black holiday party dress. Just like a Christmas tree, a little black dress can be dressed up in dozens of ways to make you shine!

A black holiday party dress is also practical when you’re on a budget because changing a few accessories can give your dress an entirely new holiday party style. Black is always classy, slimming, and appropriate during the holiday season and beyond. Here are four ways to accessorize a black holiday party dress.
Little Black Dress with Sheer sequin bodice l styled by Fabulous After 40


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