What to Wear to a Bridal Shower As A Guest
True Bridal Shower Story…Did I tell you about when I went to a bridal shower for my friend’s daughter?
One of the guests was wearing such a low-cut dress that when she reached across the buffet table to get a cup of tea and an egg salad sandwich, out popped her nipple. That’s no joke and a good example of what not to wear to a bridal shower!
Figuring out what to wear can be tricky. Here are some guidelines for what to wear to a bridal shower as a guest to look lovely and appropriate, as well as a few outfit ideas for inspiration.
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What to Wear to a Bridal Shower As A Guest: Knowing How To Dress
Bridal showers are sweet celebrations of love, romance, and the woman of honor, the bride-to-be.
Although bridal showers have become a little more relaxed over the years, this doesn’t mean you should show up in boring, everyday clothes. No matter how formal or informal, a bridal shower is an important event calling for something special.
When deciding what to wear, think of a bridal shower as a fancy tea party, with dainty sandwiches, desserts, tea and coffee, and chit-chat because that is basically what it is. The dressing goal is to look pretty, elegant, and ladylike.
If you are the bride’s mother, you are second in importance to the bride, so honor that role by wearing something thoughtful and classy.
What is the Dress Code for a Bridal Shower?
Bridal showers can be casual or dressy. However, the bridal shower invitation often doesn’t state the dress code, which can leave you feeling stressed about what to wear.
One clue as to how fancy you should dress is to consider the location. Casual bridal showers are typically held at someone’s home, a church hall, or a community center.
Dressy bridal showers are usually held at a nice restaurant, golf club, hotel, or reception hall. In my experience, they are generally much larger, too. I once attended an Italian wedding shower at a reception hall with 150 ladies!
In any case, there is a tried-and-true, appropriate way to dress for a bridal shower. Follow these guidelines.
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1. Wear Something Feminine and Pretty
Bridal showers are about love and romance, so the perfect dress is pretty and feminine. Leave your work power suits or your sexy evening favorites at home. Soft and ladylike is the way to go. Bridal shower guest dresses should be modest but charming.
Classic styles like wraps, sheaths, shifts, or fit-and-flare dresses are ideal because they’re conservative. A pair of flowy dress pants can be beautiful, too, but avoid jeans or cords, which are too casual to look right.
For a casual bridal shower, you can wear anything from a pretty sundress to an elevated casual day dress—flowy fabrics like chiffon and feminine details like lace, ruffles, and tiers work well. Wear something similar to what you would wear for a special occasion, like Easter or a Mother’s Day brunch.
For a dressy bridal shower, you can glam it up a bit (wearing cocktail attire if you like, but not as dressy as what you would wear to a wedding).
3. Pastels & Neutrals are a Natural Choice
Light, soft neutrals, and pastels in light pink, blue, yellow, and green are always lovely. If these colors make you feel too washed out, bright, cheery colors also work well.
Whichever color you decide to go with, remember avoid wearing all white. A little o.k., but an all white dress, for example, feels like you are trying to steal the bride’s spotlight, regardless of what she is wearing at the shower.
4. Florals Feel Romantic
Beautiful floral prints always look right at a bridal shower, whether you are wearing a floral dress or blouse. Flowers are synonymous with love and romance. Too small of a floral can be aging. Too large can overwhelm a small frame. Please look for a medium-size print in a modern color combo.
5. Flowy Pants and a Blouse are Lovely
If you don’t like dresses, pants can be beautiful, too, so long as they are not too casual or too serious and stiff. The best pants are soft and fluid, such as a pair of wide-leg or palazzo pants. They give a relaxed but chic vibe. A feminine blouse in fabric that drapes nicely can also be a great choice. Add low, pointy slingbacks to complete the look.
6. Jumpsuits Are Fabulous as Well
If you want to wear pants but don’t feel like you have a dressy enough top, classy jumpsuits are chic and elegant bridal shower attire. You can wear these for both winter showers and summer showers.
7. Put on Your Pretty Shoes
A delicate, feminine shoe may be all you need to transform a plain dress in your closet into a Cinderella-like outfit for a bridal shower.
8. Bring on the Bling
Bring on the bling at a bridal shower. You can wear your fine, expensive things or some fun costume jewelry. It doesn’t matter. A little sparkle adds a lot of glam to a special celebration like this. You just don’t want something so flashy it looks more like it’s for an evening party outfit.
9. Add Elegant Accessories
Carry a chic clutch, don a silk scarf, or buy that fancy hat you’ve fantasized about wearing. It’s a party. Have fun.
10. Layer Appropriately
If you’re attending a winter bridal shower, you may want to bring a shawl, cardigan, or coat to layer with. This is handy if it’s summer and the house or hall is air conditioned. In winter, you might feel chilly too if you are wearing a sleeveless dress, depending on where the shower is held. I also have suggestions for what to wear to a winter wedding shower, here.
What Not to Wear to a Bridal Shower
This gets back to my little story at the beginning of this post. Forget plunging necklines and thigh-high skirts. Save those for the cocktail bar. They’re too showy and hard for an afternoon ladies’ tea party. Of course, you don’t want to look sappy-sweet, but it’s better to err on this side and not look desperate for attention.
Other things you should not wear to a bridal shower
- All White or Ivory: This color is reserved for the bride.
- Black or Gray: If you’re too sad for a happy event, try navy with a bright or light floral print or black pants with a light, pretty top.
- Slinky or Tight: Sexy or edgy is the wrong look for a bridal shower.
- Flip Flops and Shorts: No!
- Sequins: They are too glam and take away from the bride.
Final note:
Just so you know, if you are on the fence about your bridal shower guest outfit choice, please keep this in mind. The same dressy outfit you wear to a bridal shower can also be worn to a baby shower, high school reunion, church, date night, christening, your child’s college graduation, a special birthday party, and more. So, go ahead and treat yourself to something fresh and new. You feel good when you look good, and life is much more fun.
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Do you have other ideas about what to wear to a bridal shower? Let me know.
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Is it appropriate to wear a black dress to a casual bridal shower? Some say it’s bad luck, but others believe it’s a stylish choice. What do you think?
Hi there. I can see how some may feel black is unlucky. I personally would not wear a black dress to a bridal shower for another reason. Black is dark and serious and doesn’t reflect the light, joyful mood of a bridal shower. I would suggest something light, bright (or soft), feminine and cheery. Hope that helps.
Love the jumpsuit shown on your website? It’s a great choice!
Fantastic blog and has the best selection of words that are informative for every thanks for sharing
Hello,
I am, along with another friend hosting a bridal shower for my friend, and I am wondering if a soft purple lapel collar crop blouse and pants with a white strapless tube top are appropriate. I think it looks nice and elegant, but I know guests shouldn’t wear white it’s just the undershirt, not the outfit…help!
Thanks
Hi Bianca,
Yes, that’s fine. It’s only when you are wearing an all-white outfit that it seems like you are stealing the bride’s thunder; what you have chosen sounds lovely. Have an excellent time!
Help! I will be going to a brunch & bubbly bridal shower at a local country club in July. Would white pants be appropriate? Thanks
Hi Yvonne,
Yes, a nice pair of white dress pants and a statement blouse- would be lovely with low-block heels and a nice bag and jewelry.
Is it ok to wear a long dress?
Hi Sharon, Yes, a pretty floral maxi would be delicate for a bridal shower.
Hi Deborah,
Would an animal print dress, similar style to the first dress, be appropriate for me as the mother of the groom to wear? The bridal shower is being held in a party room in an apartment complex; it’s a wine and cheese get-together. Thanks in advance for your input; greatly appreciated.
Hi Grace,
I love animal print dresses, but I wouldn’t recommend one for a bridal shower.
Animal prints have an edgy, sexy vibe that syncs with a bridal shower.
I would suggest something pretty, on the romantic side, like a lovely dress or a nice blouse and a pair of dress pants.
I hope that helps.
This is awesome, and everything from tops to shoes…just awesome!
Oh, that is a funny story! Glad it was not my shower or my nipple! Thank you for creating the pretty outfits; I always appreciate your suggestions.
Hi Deborah
I have read your posts for a while, and you are doing an excellent job. The way you dress is classy and will never be out of fashion. (Miladyvault)
Cheers Deborah
Modesty doesn’t seem to be part of the lexicon anymore.
Hi!! I always preferred sweet over sexy. Thanks for the great ideas I love!
Hi Deborah, I Love this article. Being a lady is often overlooked nowadays—gorgeous dresses and accessories you choose. Cheers!