What to Wear to Thanksgiving Dinner

Hi Deborah,

Thanksgiving is coming up fast. What should I wear to Thanksgiving dinner?  We are having a very small, low-key dinner with my sister and her family, but I still want to look fashionable and pulled together. Can you give me some ideas for Thanksgiving dinner outfits that are casual, stylish, and comfy? Thanks, Sue

Hi Sue,

Even though your Thanksgiving dinner will be small and understated this year, it’s nice to hear you want to celebrate in style. Life is too short to be frumpy! This Thanksgiving, seize the holiday spirit by saying no to sloppy sweatpants and boring slump-around-clothes. Try these suggestions for Thanksgiving dinner outfits that are casual and classy.

1. A Sparkly Top

A low-key celebration doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice style. Sweaters are always comfy, so why not wear one with some personality?

A sparkly top is always so festive this time of the year. This glamorous, brown glittery top with the front tie is stretchy and comfy. It’s perfect for a casual dinner when worn with a pair of jeans or black pants.

Add some sleek suede booties and some fun, dangly earrings, and let’s get the party started. This also comes in a beautiful wine color and can double as a holiday top at Christmas time!

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4 Relaxed, No Fuss Thanksgiving Travel Outfits

Are you flying home for Thanksgiving and dreading the noisy airport crowds, mile-long security checks, and the jam-packed flights?

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One way to ease the stress of holiday travel is to dress as simply and as comfortably as you can.

When I travel in fall, I like to wear stretchy jeans, a light jacket that easily rolls into a ball and is packable, a warm sweater with long sleeves (as I get cold on planes), low booties, and a big tote. But there are many more ways you can dress.

Here are 4 no-fuss Thanksgiving travel outfits to get you home looking stylish and feeling relaxed.

Thanksgiving Travel - Pink Cardigan

When You Travel, Dress in Layers

Airplanes get chilly, don’t they? But they can heat up fast too! And if you throw the occasional hot-flash into the mix, there’s rarely a perfect temperature. The best way to battle fluctuating temperatures is by layering your clothes.

Start with a soft top like this super-soft and stretchy, gathered hem knit top, followed by a long, sweater. This grandpa cardigan is snuggly and chic. You may need a coat too if it’s going to be cold when you arrive. Just make sure it’s not too heavy and bulky. That overhead cabin space is so limited.

Be Kind to Your Feet

There’s no way around it. At the airport, you are going to be doing a ton of walking, so make sure you’re sensible, not silly about your choice of shoes. These soft, comfy sneakers will take you from terminal to terminal with a smile on your face. Slip-ons are even better, which means no fumbling with laces or zippers when it’s time to do your security scan.

Other great travel pieces in this outfit include a light quality duffle bag. It’s always handy to carry your book, water bottle,  headphones, and all the other little things you need to stay comfy while you’re traveling. Note: I always like to carry a pair of ankle socks in my bag, just in case I want to slip off my shoes on the plane and let my feet breathe.

Bring a Poncho or Wrap

Depending on your end destination, a snuggly poncho or wrap is ideal for flying. I love this plaid one! The pink and gray look so pretty together.

One bonus of bringing a wrap is that it can double as a blanket, depending on cabin temperature.

Cute suede booties add some style – low to medium heels only for comfort on the long walk from your gate to the baggage carousel. A  tote bag style purse is always handy and chic.

Thanksgiving Travel Outfit - Joggers

Wear Clothes That Move and  Stretch

Feeling comfy is key if you are going to be traveling, especially given that airplane seats are so small and cramped. It’s a great idea to wear clothes with loose waistbands ( like a drawstring pair) or that have some built-in stretch so that you can move around easily. There’s nothing worse than sitting for hours in a tight, stiff pair of pants or a top that you are worried about crinkling.

Leggings are a Passenger’s Best Friend

Leggings are super comfy for air travel. Just make sure to cover your bottom to look airport chic. Try a good quality legging or Ponte pants ( a slightly thicker, double knit version)  Also handy is a cozy scarf that you can easily take on or off depending on the temperature in the plane. ( It can double as a pillow!) You can even roll it up into a ball and tuck into your suitcase upon arrival if you need to.

I’ve pulled in a great pair of riding boots here, which look really cool with leggings. I’ve worn tall suede boots on short flights. However, if your trip is more than a couple of hours long, tall boots may feel too hot.

Other items to consider taking

  • A practical but stylish crossbody bag to carry all those little extras and free up your hands so you can pull out tickets and roll your suitcase.
  • A Light Rain Jacket for Layering  that you can roll up and put in your bag if you are not going to a wintry destination
  • A large travel wallet with a zipper all the way around to carry your passport in so you don’t lose it. Mine is bright red, so I don’t lose it!

Enjoy your trip in comfort and style. By wearing one of these fab looks, who knows, you might be that lucky passenger who gets bumped up to first-class!


What They Wore – Mother Of The Bride Dresses

Since everyone enjoyed my Mother of the Bride photos a couple of weeks ago, I thought I’d post a few more!

Every time I advise women about what do wear when you are the Mother of the Bride or Groom, I remind them that next to the bride they are the most important women at the wedding and deserve to shine.

Whether you’re the MOB or MOB, you’ll find inspiration from this week’s readers who sent in these fabulous Wedding Day photos that show off what they wore.

mother of bride-laurie in gold sparkly gown with bride and bridesmaid

Golden Sparkle

Laurie had been searching for months looking for a gold dress to wear to her daughter’s July wedding. She finally found this gorgeous, embellished cold shoulder dress at Neiman Marcus. Formal and romantic, it was perfect for the church wedding and club reception.

As soon as Laurie put on the dress, she knew it couldn’t compare to anything else. Her daughter agreed! Laurie and everyone else looked so pretty! Continue reading “What They Wore – Mother Of The Bride Dresses”


Top 10 Ways to Combat Dry Winter Skin

Icy, cold winter weather can leave your hands dry, and your skin chapped!

Throw in the awful dryness that comes with menopause and causes crepey skin, and you can practically hear your skin crying out for help.

Gals over 40 should always baby their skin, and during the winter, we need to be extra kind and gentle, but beyond moisturizer, what can you do? As it turns out, plenty! I rounded up some girlfriends to exchange notes on our favorite dry skin products, and here is what we came up with.

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Casual Fashion Looks I Wore this Summer

How do you dress casually but look fashionable too? Here’s a roundup of a few cute looks taken straight from my Instagram this summer.

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Easy Breezy Summer Dress

A feminine silhouette and a stunning geranium color make this cute sundress perfect for my relaxed lifestyle. Chunky sandals with gold studs add a touch of glam. You can see more of this dress in this feature post.


Lace Knit Jacket

How many times have you wished you had a cute little jacket to go overtop of a tank top and jeans. This lace knit top by Picadilly Canada is perfect for breezy summer days. Continue reading “Casual Fashion Looks I Wore this Summer”

Fashion bloggers over 40

How to Mix Textures, Colors, and Prints

For many women, fashion is a mixed bag! In other words, the more prints, the more colors, the more texture, the better. See how these fabulous fashionistas over 40 manage to pull it off!


When it comes to flowers, the prettier, judging by the outfit, this 50+ fashionista and blogger from North Carolina has assembled a bouquet of different florals to create a very modern, feminine look.


Zilla from Australia mixes a super soft, laid-back chambray shirt with a silky knife pleat skirt. She tops it off with edgy leopard print accessories and pearls! A lot is going on, but somehow it works!



Girly Gingham meets a playful floral print in this fun summer outfit from style and fashion blogger Terri.


Codigo, from Spain, blends 3 prints in the most interesting way. A chevron bag comes together with a plaid skirt and polka dot stockings to create a classic look with a creative twist that’s a feast for the eyes.


Italian fashion and beauty blogger Vale looks sophisticated and chic in a co-ordinating chevron sweater and skirt. Same pattern, but two different sizes of the pattern make this work! See more of Vale’s style here.


Stripes on stripes? Tamera, 50+ fashion blogger from California and one of my Fabulous After 40 Styleblazers, is fearless when combining red horizontal stripes with black vertical stripes for a look that is perfectly lined up!


Cherie, a style blogger and vintage shop owner from NYC, combines color in the coolest way. A bright yellow jacket, plus bold red palazzo pants, all tied together with leopard print accessories, is powerful and pleasing to anyone who loves to stand out! Be sure to read my Styleblazer interview with Cherie to find out more about her fabulous look.

I’m always on the lookout for Stylish women to feature. Be sure to add the #fabulousafter40 HASHTAG to your Instagram posts so I can find you easily!


Colored Lace Dresses ~ What I Wore

Lace dresses in a rainbow of playful colors have been going strong for a couple of seasons now.  Here a look at some 40+ Fashionistas who look fabulous in theirs.

lavender lace dress


Barbi, a Southern blonde flirting with 50, looks lovely in a short lace dress in lavender. The length is perfect for her petite stature and the fit and flare does a great job showing off her tiny waist. Cute sandals ( you can barely see them) dress down this dress a bit for summer parties. Continue reading “Colored Lace Dresses ~ What I Wore”


Cocktail Dresses for Women over 40

What do you wear to a cocktail party? If you need some ideas for a special celebration that’s coming up, then just take a look at these gorgeous Instagrammers in their pick of cocktail dresses for women over 40.


Emma, a 40+ fashion, beauty, and travel blogger, looks rich and royal in this black and gold number is formal and sophisticated.


Susan, a Florida image consultant, dazzles in this stunning gold sequined dress perfect for ringing in the New Year.



Alicia, a Texas, Lifestyle expert in style, home, beauty, and travel, looks ravishing in a red cocktail dress with beautiful draping and bows.


Eugenia from Pennsylvania is a sixty-something Baby Boomer trying to age gracefully. This classy Styleblazer looks super chic in black lace, always a favorite at cocktail parties. See more little black dresses here.


Miriam shares her world of lifestyle and fashion on Instagram. This time she is modeling her ultimate party look, purple satin, and a purple fur wrap.

Carina is not an Instagrammer. She’s one of my readers, but I wanted to include her because she looks so beautiful in this lovely red lace dress.  If you have a high-quality photo of yourself to share, please send it in, and I may just post it!

I’m always on the lookout for Stylish women to feature. Be sure to add the #fabulousafter40 HASHTAG to your Instagram posts so I can find you easily!



How To Wear Long Hair After 40, 50

Long hair over 40- It’s aging, right? At least that’s what we’ve always been told. Check out these 40 and 50+ Instagrammers who dispel that myth that once you hit a certain age, it’s time for the chop.




Adrienne is a  lifestyle and travel blogger living in California’s picturesque wine country. Her soft, brown hair with sun-kissed highlights is in keeping with her natural, west coast lifestyle. Long hair also helps balance out her height, which is over 6 feet! You can read more about Adrienne in my Fabulous After 40 Styleblazer interview.




Susana is a Florida blogger and a Fabulous After 40 Styleblazer . Her style can be described as classic, preppy, and Miami meets Madrid.  Her sleek dark mane is perfectly polished, and she often wears it up in a chignon for a chic, high fashion look. The lesson here- a good cut and a rich color like Susana’s can add a lot of vibrancy and richness at any age.




Tina is a Danish tailor and nutritionist who has a passion for fashion and food over 40. Her light brown hair with strawberry highlights is in harmony with her delicate, peachy complexion. When your hair is as pretty as Tina’s why cut it?



Heather is a Dallas style blogger who you may have read about when I interviewed her for my Styleblazer series. Her gorgeous blonde mane is thick and full, a real bonus after 40 when hair begins to get scraggly. But what really makes Heather look fab is her modern styling. Love those soft, flowing waves!



Many women over 40 with long hair fall into a rut of wearing their hair the same old way, day in and day out. Mariana, a fashion stylist who helps you maximize your wardrobe on a budget, is also good at maximizing what you can be done with long hair. She’s pinned hers back for a fresh, easy look that shows off her pretty face and fab statement earrings.




The biggest obstacle to wearing your hair long past 40 is that as we age our faces lose fat and our hair thins. Long straight hair can drag your face down and make you look old. If you want to keep your hair long and avoid that drawn-out look, then the best thing to do is get a layered cut. Tracy, a  lifestyle blogger and mom to 5 daughters, has a modern layered cut that’s perfect for a midlife mama.  Her beautiful layers add volume and body and widen her face, giving her a fresh, youthful appearance.



Want to know one of the secrets for pulling off long hair after 40? Erin, a wardrobe stylist and mom from San Antonia, Texas has done a great job keeping her lovely locks looking soft, and shiny. Check out my interview with this fascinating Fabulous After 40 Styleblazer.



Susan is a Boston, mid-50’s wardrobe stylist & social worker who is determined to do away with frumpy. One of the ways she’s accomplishing that is with a healthy dose of blonde highlights that add depth, character and a youthful touch to her long brown hair. No old lady, helmet-head hair color here! To find out more about Susan, check out her Styleblazer feature.




Nicole is an author, entrepreneur, trend spotter, traveler, mom to two. Her thick brown hair with the perky flip makes a lovely frame for her pretty face.




This Spanish Instagrammer has dedicated her account to women 45+ so they can celebrate themselves and enjoy each other. Followers are sure to be inspired by this Latin beauty’s smooth-as-silk tresses. A good blow dry goes a long way when your hair is past your shoulders, especially at midlife and beyond when hair typically starts to change texture and get a little frizzy.



Tanya is a Dallas, lifestyle blogger and fundraiser for good causes whose gorgeous, long blonde hair is her best accessory. Sexy! Find out more about this Fabulous After 40 Styleblazer. Read my interview with Tanya.




Carrie is a blogger who is on a mission to help women own their individual style and express it through their wardrobe and life. She’s taking ownership of her style by wearing long hair after 40, and she’s looking great doing it!

Do you have long hair? Did you ever think about cutting it because you had reached a certain age? What stopped you? What about long gray hair over 40? t

What about long gray hair over 40? I have a great post on some beautiful Silver Foxes you’ll want to to read.

Do you think this reader should cut her hair? Join the long hair discussion.

Fashion bloggers over 40

Ideas for Wearing Stripes from Over 40 Bloggers

You’re 40+. You’ve earned your stripes, so isn’t it about time you started wearing them?

If you need inspiration for how to wear this tried and true print, then check out these 40+ bloggers who have all kinds of interesting ideas for wearing stripes. Their stylish outfits prove that stripes can be a fabulous addition to your summer wardrobe.



You don’t have to wear stripes head-to-toe to get a sporty look. Tamera proves that a little goes a long way when you’re looking to add a little punch to a summer outfit. Don’t miss my Styleblazer interview with Tamera about having fun with fashion. Continue reading “Ideas for Wearing Stripes from Over 40 Bloggers”


American Style Made Easy

Style is easy when you break it down. So far we’ve looked at the French Way of Dressing, the elements of British Style and how to get a Scandinavian look. Today we decode good old American style.

The world’s powerhouse nation, home to blue jeans and pop music, has also become its own brand of iconic style.  Sporty, sleek and cool, American style is all about taking an athletic sensibility and giving it a glam twist.  Perfect for those who love to look polished but still have a sense of fun about their look, consider it a grown-up spin on tomboy chic.

American-style whit shirt streipe pants



Here’s what’s involved in getting your own version of oh-so-sporty American style! Continue reading “American Style Made Easy”


Casual Dressing: Readers Share Their Favorite Looks

Casual Dressing means relaxed but it doesn’t have to mean frumpy. Take a look at these cute casual outfits that are favorites with my Fabulous After 40 readers.

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Casual for a Concert

It can be tricky to know what to wear to a concert. Most concerts are casual occasions, but you still want to look nice. One way to tackle what to wear is to combine elements of casual and dressy clothes.

Fifty-five year old Maria  from San Diego, California strikes a cord in this cute outfit that pairs dark wash jeans with a frilly blouse.

The frills give the blouse a dressy feel, while the short sleeves and jeans keep it more casual. Don’t you love those pointy toed pumps? They’re a fun surprise that makes her outfit pop.




Jeans and a Blazer

Barbi’s office allows “casual Fridays”, so on those days Barbi stays on target by wearing a pair of colored denim pants and a blazer to pull her look together. She looks comfy and relaxed, but the jacket helps send the message, that she means business.


blue brustroke top


Classic Blue Jeans and a Pretty Top

For 48-year-old Patrizia from Italy blue jeans are her definition of casual dressing. Here she dresses them up with a top that has an abstract print – a hot trend right now.  Partrizia writes, “I have a straight-banana body shape with not much waist definition. I feel very comfortable in this outfit, casual but still feminine, it gives the illusion of a more curvy figure, or at least that I do have hips!”

If you are struggling to dress your rectangular-shaped body just as Patrizia does, you can find tips on creating curves in my post, “5 Tips for Dressing if Your Body Has a Rectangle Shape”.

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 Jeans and a Layered Sweater

Jeans look modern if you wear them with a bright top layered over a shirt. Tracy, 49, from Oakland, California demonstrates the look, worn here with a pair of cute wedge booties. Great for the weekend!

artsy clothesWide Leg Pants

Not everyone is big on jeans. Ela, the owner of the fashion boutique Delacor Studio, prefers something more creative. She has paired an asymmetrical top with flowy pants and huge sculptured earrings to create a casual, fashion-forward look.

headscarfOpaque Stocking instead of Pants

Swatika, from Indonesia, is a modest dresser who prefers coverage from head to toe. Here she is in a veil, or hijab as it is known in Indonesia, and a dress. Instead of pants she has opted for opaque tights and cute booties. Her black leather motorcycle jacket puts a hip edge on this traditional look.


Leggings and  a Tunic

Here’s a casual look that is very popular- leggings and a tunic. Joy Anna Wadsworth gets this right by tastefully covering her bottom and upper thighs. Love the gladiator sandals.


Leggings and a Dress

Leggings or skinny jeans paired with a dress is another casual look that women love. When I posted a  photo of Margaret Ann Whalen on my facebook page everyone thought she looked darling.


Leggings and a Flowy Top

Here’s a similar outfit. Leslie Bonner made this beautiful long top. Looking fabulous after 40 and so talented too.

how-to-wear-a-trench-coat-over-40Casual Dress Pants

Sue has teamed up a pair of navy, flared-leg trousers and a polka dot top with a tangerine trench coat. That color combo is right on trend at the moment. Looking sporty Sue!tunic-and-leggings

Loving those Leggings!

More leggings from Linda! She has paired a tunic with leggings and then added her own personal touch – a unique belt and statement necklace for a relaxed, casual look. This outfit really shows off your personality Linda!

For tips on what to wear with leggings, check out 7 Ways to Tastefully Wear Leggings and Legging Fashion Tips for Women Over 40.